What does cheating mean to you?

Cheating is the greatest violation of trust and no, I would NEVER take back a cheater, why would I risk myself getting hurt again? Taking this risk with another person, yes, but not with the same one.

I will respectfully disagree with just about everyone else that has offered an opinion.

Few people walk into a doctors office and say to the doctor, "I have cancer." No, they walk in with a cough, a lump, a pain that won't go away-a seemingly, unrelated symptom that leads to more inspection and finds a cancer. Infidelity is much the same, it is a symptom of a larger, underlying ill that will doom a relationship if unaddressed.

The question it might be prudent to ask is why did the person feel the need to stray in the first place and then closely examine your own actions. As a counselor buddy of mine tells me-if each spouse to a collapsing marriage cannot fill a full page of a yellow legal pad with what they did, or didn't do to contribute to its failings then they haven't accepted their responsibility yet and will likely continue in dysfunctional relationships.

Having worked with many relationships that have this issue (we're a PI group out of Dallas, TX) I can tell you that there are just as many that do manage to work through the infidelity and come out as a stronger couple on the other side. To blindly blame the other person fails to recognize the underlying issue that created the infidelity and delays one or both examining how they can move on to a more healthy relationships.

Cheating = anything you do with somebody else in a sexual or intimate way that you wouldn't want your husband or wife to find out about.

If on the other hand, they're okay with you messing around (like the millions of husbands out there who encourage their wives to be "hot" wives) or if you happen to be swingers where the two of you enjoy having sex with other people, then that is NOT cheating.

Of course this is just my opinion. There are some crackpot wives here who think that guys looking at porn is cheating. Meanwhile they have "50 Shades Of Gray" in their nightstand with a personal massager!

AND FYI.............why would somebody take back a cheater? Low self esteem? It's not always that easy. What if a woman with a home, children, and a life found out that her husband was cheating? Sure she could leave and the whole world would know about it, the kids would suffer, and the house gets sold. But not every woman is willing to do that. MILLIONS of wives AND husbands prefer to turn the other cheek because it's just not worth it to throw away the lifestyle they've grown accustom to. I see it happen all the time! Of course, I live in San Diego which is about 80 miles south of Orange County CA!

Cheating is very wrong. It means that you don't love the other person. :P I would never even think of taking a back a cheater cause once a cheater, always a cheater. Of course they are selfish and greedy because they cant be happy with what they have. :P lol sorry.. xD But yeah.. Thats it :P

It has a definite boundary line which actually involves physical sexual contact. It means there was no real commitment to a relationship, it was all Smoke and Mirrors and Fake from the very beginning. One you missed was the lack of respect for the other person. Being totally Self Centred and every thing only revolves around that person.

I would not take back a cheater EVER. Cheating shows how much the other person feels towards you and that more importantly you cant trust them.Trust is one of the main needs of a relationship and if that trust is broken things will never be the same again.

It's a method of getting something from someone that is not available from the current partner.

Would I take back a cheater? Hard to say; it's cicumstantial

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A cheater means he/she cares more about himself/herself than their mate and are indeed untrustworthy.

No I would not. I am a firm believer in trust gone, love died.

Yes I do,because i did it already.I accepted my husband when he cheated me. Its very difficult to understand but i did forgave what he has done. He apologize and he didnt promise that he will not hurt me anymore but i gave him a second chance. Actually the fact that he cheated me once is the reason that he love me more, cause im unique from anyone.