why does everyone think sex is the ultimate form of love?

I think I'm in love with you. The problem is when we are all surrounded by, bombarded by sex in advertising and entertainment...even fashion, we are programmed to focus on sex. It's sad. There is so much more to love than sex. Anyone who has ever really been in love knows this. I always feel sorry for the ones who are in such a hurry to get to bed. They have sex with people they don't even know yet. It's all backward. And they are cheating themselves. You must be a lovely guy.

Everyone has different opinions about love. Being sexual with your partner to most is the ultimate form of love because thats something only the two of you share together. Being alone with each other and giving each other amazing feelings you cannot feel any other way. People now a days tend to forget about that... And take it for granted. And i agree with you that it shouldnt be all about sex but that is a big part of maintaining a relationship.

Because, people are stupid that's why. Having sex with someone does not mean that you love them. It just means you want to orgasm with them. That is lust, not love.

True love can exist without sex. True love is about spending time together, actually feeling emotion.

Sex is about orgasm, nothing more.

I don't lack testosterone, I am just a smart guy.

I'm a 17 year old male, but I don't believe that sex is important when it comes to true love. And most of the time, people just have sex for their own pleasure, and aren't even in "love" that they think they are. They are just in lust, not love. I wish more people had sense like you and I :)

Edit - I would like to add, sex often provides a pleasurable orgasm, but it is not enough to provide true love.

You aren't in love if you only want sex.

Because of several reasons. One of them being brainwashed people. I mean, look around, most of the things you see on tv/ads/magazines, etc are sexually oriented to some degree. Another would be hormones, quite self explanatory.

You're right though, and there is an astounding difference between having sex and making love.

Sex may not be the ultimate expression of love, however as you go through life you may find that may change. Perhaps you have set this girl up on a pedestal and have such a pure vision that you over looked the obvious, that she is human too and may want someday to make love to you and that may include sex. Just keep your mind open.

Sex within marriage can be the ultimate form of love when planned and wanted children are brought into the world and the marriage is enhanced by the bond.

Your mistake is your use of the word "love" as if it has only a single meaning regardless of the context.

The sexual love you feel toward a woman is VERY DIFFERENT from the love you feel for a child or grandchild. The love for a child is every bit as strong but fundamentally different.

Your idealized and Platonic feelings toward this girl are unrealistic and apply only in a dream world. Ask the women on this site if they could "love" a man who was not sexually attracted to them.

(Sigh) Im so glad at your age you understand this. Most people do not grow out of their teenage syndrome of lusting. I can tell you that even people in their 30s are still not getting what you just now understood. Im glad to hear of your epiphany. And you will find that girls can sense that when you just respect her and everything about her without jumping at her, she will open up to you herself. You wont have to force it on her. THATs the way its supposed to be. Just like a flower slowly opening up to the warmth of the sun, and releasing its fragrance and beauty. When you understand that and how it works, another dimension inside you opens up. Be respectful to her and to yourself. :)

Not Everyone does so...yet you are either in denial, Gay or need to see a Doctor

Because it Can Be :) it's not Always But it's VERY Possible :)

Depends on how much You love the Person :)