My boyfriend still hasn't divorced his wife yet?

Your mistake was getting involved with the guy (more than casually) prior to him actually divorcing...move on...if he really wanted to be with you, he would...

Until there's a legal order in place, she's within her rights. Child support is a completely separate issue from custody/visitation. I know that when my ex and I divorced it was written in the temporary orders that there were to be no "overnight" visits with anyone of the opposite sex while the children were around. (And yes, they CAN do this.) Doesn't matter if you live with him or not. If that's in the papers that the judge signs off on, that's how it is. Once the divorce is final, that temporary order no longer stands. If HE filed for divorce, he should also have filed temporary custody orders. He left the home, left the kids there without any custody arrangements. Divorce may take time, but it doesn't have to take over 2 years (if, in fact, you weren't around before the divorce was filed). And who cares if you're wealthy? That's got nothing to do with anything.

Ugh...where to start.

You've dug yourself in a hole so deep. I don't know why ppl make their own lives so miserable. I don't think his wife knows about you, in fact I'm almost sure he's been playing you this entire time. If she's living under the same roof as him, that's not called being separated, that means they are married and living by it. He won't divorce his wife, and if he does it'll take years, way after your child is born. If that wife of his is smart she will walk away with a big portion since she can get him on infidelity.

I think if you contact this woman it's going to be a huge huge blowout, and ur lil bf there will be so pissed at you.

I really have no advice for you, your heading down a really dark and sad life.

I think he's lying to both you and his wife, I would so talk to his wife, I will be you dollars to donuts that she doesn't even know you exist and has no idea about a divorce. It's been happening for many years my friend, you might also want to mention her new step child.

You are so being used. He can come and get sex from you, give you a line of garbage and go home to his wife. Now there is an innocent child in this mix. You need to tell him you are pregnant, so you can get child support, but don't count on him being happy about this and don't count on being Mrs. anyone.

Ok, he has been cheating on you with his wife and your ok with that NOOO you really got yourself into a mess, "you need to focus on how to take care of this child". Then Find a real man down the line that respects, your more then that!!

He is lying. He is not going to divorce his wife and he is not going to leave her. He is using you for sex, nothing more. Get rid of him. Maybe in your state you can sue him for child support. Either way, get out now.

Has it occurred to you that he used you? That you were just a fling and that he's been feeding you a load of crap all along?

Once the kid is born you better get the child support and visitation orders in place. I think once you tell him of the pregnancy, you'll be on your own.

Wow are you blind?

That guy is never divorcing his wife he would have done it a long time ago. He's just using you woman

When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging And you are in a hole. Send him packing. And prepare to be a single mom. Next time, just ask if he's married before the nookie.

or he isn't separated and still married living under the same roof - duh?

just for a moment think that he is still happily married and she knows nothing of you?

just for a moment think that you dear are the outsider looking in

I think if you had a chat with his wife - he would choose her