Gay men, have you ever got a crush on a girl?

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I'm a teenage boy, in middle school and want some info. Here's some info on me. I've never had an attraction to women. I've always liked men, I always thought I was a freak. But I'm starting to accept that I'm probably gay. I think I'm taking it well. I've even been acting more feminine to show it. I feel I should come out, but after I know my sexuality 100%. I hit puberty in like 5th grade, that's why I know so early. I got this crush on this girl, but I feel no attraction physically whatsoever. I don't like her anymore. People keep saying " date her dude!" but I don't want to. I dated a girl and it was ssssssoooooo boring. I think it was just a phase. I thought I was bi for a while. But I think I'm gay with some straight. Gay guys have you ever got a crush on a girl? Do you think this is just a phase?

CJ · Accepted Answer

Yes, I still do get little crushes sometimes too...But it's not at all sexual, and I don't think it means I'm bisexual either because I could never imagine myself dating a girl. 

So everything is perfectly normal, except for the fact that you're purposely trying to be more feminine...Why?? Don't be fake, just be yourself.

MK · Answer

Yes I have, I have a very close friend and I have the hugest crush on her but the thought of her naked grosses me out. As for advice I would say two things 1 figure out if you want your relationship with your significant other to be physical attraction or personality. 2 don't do anything drastic, I wouldn't come out yet or date her and potentially ruin your relationship. For now just live and enjoy the relationships. I tried to do everything in middle school and it had severe consequences.

? · Answer

Maybe you are bi with a strong preference for men? I am gay, but I can still appreciate a girls beauty and personality, but I could never date one. I see them more as friends. Its a bit of a scale I think. At one end you have totally straight people, and at the other you have totally gay people. I think most people are somewhere in between.

? · Answer

I've had a crush on a girl plenty of times, and it was EXACTLY the same. You're gay. Just trust me. Regardless of sexual orientation, you can have crushes on whoever, boy or girl. That doesn'r define sexuality.

James · Answer

Not me, but I know many gay people who dated a few women before realizing they were definitely gay.  I guess they had to experiment with heterosexuality to prove that wasn't their true orientation.

? · Answer

Not really.

I've had some really kick-*** friends who were girls and I loved them to death, but it wasn't that kind of love.

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