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For moms, about their relationship after having a baby.?
My baby is 8months old. And my hubby works full time. Well I feel like lately he drives me up the wall. From him either being to tired when he comes home to help with anything even picking up his own shoes. Ill run them over with the vacuum for him to get the point or step on them since he leaves them in the middle of the room. I do his laundry I cook everyday when he gets home he has dinner waiting for him I do every household thing, because I feel it's my job if I'm staying at home. BUT I feel like I'm losing it. It's making me hate him cuz I get no time to myself not even a 20 min shower. Any moms feel this way? And what did u do to cope or make changes? And did ur relationship end or eventually get better? I love him but I'm starting to hate him. He gets unenterupted sleep every single night at least 6 hours sometimes more. And me I get 5 if I'm lucky but it's broken up because my daughters sleep schedule is all weird. And when she naps is the only time I can shower and brush my teeth and attempt the other household stuff. I feel like I'm starting to hate him. I have 0 help no family where I live no friends. We're in a new state cuz of his career. It's just really shitty. I want a moms advice on how to cope if this is normal or should I prepare for a break up lol. Thank you. Sorry for the vent!!
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- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
You need to talk to him. Explain as if you were working a regular job. I describe my day like this: my shift starts at 6am, sometimes earlier. I get no break, and no lunch break. Shift ends around 9pm, but I'm on call all night. 6am start over again, no day off. Put it in terms he uses every day. Men tend to think being a sahm is watching tv all day. It isn't. Some days are crazy and we can't even use the restroom when we need to. If a paying job had those hours no one would take it. If your hubby still doesn't care then tell him to get the hell out. If all he wants to do is provide money for your child, he can do that from someplace he won't be cluttering up the house and giving you more to do. My hubby comes home from a long day at work and we share in the household/baby duties because that's what a man does. You don't have to put up with this childish behavior.
- 8 years ago
You sound young...I wished more young new mom's would listen to this, they would NOT have a baby early. I have always said, IF you want to get married before 20 fine, just don't have a BABY right away, but every young lady wants to hurry up and have a baby, this now has became a job for both of you. He works full time, to him you are to cook, clean, take care of the baby...hate to say it, but that is the way mother hood works and for most of the young guys, this is what they do. If you threaten to leave him, he will say, "I will try harder" just to find, he will start doing the things all over he did to drive you up the wall before...then there is yelling screaming, you can go to a counselor, doubt you do this because YOU want to "fix" this, he doesn't, nagging will not help matters at all. Pick up his clothes, shoes, set them on the front porch...when he gets up in the morning, and asks "Where are my clothes" tell him...when he gets sick and tired of finding his clothes on the front porch and NOT cleaned, he may clue in. Good luck
