Am I overreacting over my friend's actions?

Question

I've had some time to think about what makes a good friend and what doesn't. So I have this friend who I thought I was a good friend but I've been starting to wonder if that's true based on her actions.

1) Bails when she feels like it
2) Talks to her boyfriend (and other people I assume) about me behind my back
3) Judges me and tells it to me in front of my face (e.g. wow you look really ugly today)
4) Ignores my texts sometimes
5) Texts other people a lot when we go out
6) Rarely texts me first

Before I had my 'revelation', I thought some of it were her personality quirks or maybe she really is too busy to have time for me. But then I started to think whether she's using me to feel better about herself or only come to me when she's bored. I don't want to jump to conclusions so here I am asking the Yahoo! answers community on how I should think about this. Am I overreacting?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hello!

She doesn't sound like a very good friend at all. Friends are meant to be there when you need them and to have a good time with, but with her putting you down, then I'm sure you don't feel very good when you are around her. 

You definitely do not seem to be overreacting to me as I would probably feel the same way if someone was treating me like that. I recently have done the same thing as you, evaluating my friendships and seeing who really was a worthy friend, and honestly, I feel a lot better for it. 

No one needs unnecessary negativity in their life. I am sure there are other people who surround you who deserve your time and attention, whereas this girl does not seem to. Focus on the good people who are around you and leave those who bring nothing but bad feeling and negativity!

Take care:)

Anonymous · Answer

From what your saying about her, you may want to confront her. She may not even realize shes doing it. If she says she does realize that shes doing it, then she may not be a very good friend for you. If your friend is really doing that then i dont think your overreacting. Ive been there it can be frustrating. Ask her about it. I really hope you guys work it out! :)

Anonymous · Answer

she doesn't seem like a true friend at all.  she also just sounds like she's jealous of you which is why she talks about  you  behind your back. I wouldn't consider her a  friend at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Stick with her and try making new friends.......these things are common in friendship...but u should let her know if she is crossing her limits.....

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