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[Pre-marriage period] Is it haram to stay alone with your fiance?

We are planning to get married in 3 months. We are engaged. We have rings. Families and friends know that. How should be our relation? Can I stay alone with her? Can I kiss or hold her hand? Could you please enlighten me about pre-marriage period please?

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  • Shah
    Lv 6
    8 years ago
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    You can meet her in isolation and privacy. BUT !! u cannot go to physical extent.

    Imagine it this way:

    How would u feel, if u were to consider a girl, who was engaged with someone before, and met him before in privacy. Then was touched and kissed by him. And lets say, this happened two or three times with different fiances, but something happened, and then she never got married to them.

    Engagement is still just a firm MOU (Memorandum of Understanding) but it is NOT an established relationship.

    [2:235]

    You commit no sin by announcing your engagement to the women, or keeping it secret. GOD knows that you will think about them.

    ***Do not meet them secretly, *unless* you have something righteous to discuss. ***

    Do not consummate the marriage until their interim is fulfilled. You should know that GOD knows your innermost thoughts, and observe Him. You should know that GOD is Forgiver, Clement.

    Source(s): Quranist "God Alone, Quran Alone"
  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    Salam Yes it is haram to stay alone with your finance because the third will shaytan who will bring you to bad doings such as hugging,embracing and kissing which are not allowed or haram before marriage although you are planning to get married in 3 months.There is no engagement in Islam and dating is haram.You can give ring to her as dowry when you get married with her. You maintain good relationship without touching to each other. You could not kiss her or hold her hand. Pre marriage period is the period you and your fiance to know each other under the supervision of both parents

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    You are gonna need to wait for 3 months. You cant hug, kiss or make any sort of physical contact with your partner until you're officially married.

    Source(s): Islamic perspective
  • 8 years ago

    Yes it is definitely haram to live alone with fiancé. Being in love you both will involve in premarital sex and pregnancy. Allah wants us to wait till we get married. Any one who suggests you to live with a guy is a follower of Satan. Never listen to such people.

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  • 8 years ago

    Well according to Sharia law it is but hey...you're getting married in 3 months anyway! It's not like you guys just met eachother.

    Source(s): Salaam and Mabrook :)
  • 8 years ago

    Without nikah u can't even touch each other. but if you make nikah you can hug or kiss.

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