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cheating husband and baby with other woman I NEED HELP.?
I need help. i know what i should do but my heart is having a really hard time. I am 25 years old and have 2 kids i have been with my husband for 9 years. back when i was in high school i cheated on him in high school. he claims he never cheated on me once but ive heard side comments through the grape vine. we had split up for some time then got back together and i then got pregnant with my oldest daughter who is now 5 at 6 months he left and wanted to go do his own thing and at 2 and 1/2 years of age he begged for his family back so i came back when my daughter was 1 month old we got married. when i got pregnant with my daughter i got my life together and never cheated on him again. when we got back together when she was 2 1/2 i got pregnant with my son, and i was finding little clues that he was cheating on me again he swore up and down it wasnt true and the end of it all when i was 7 months pregnant with my son i found out the truth that he was cheating on me to be honested my husband didnt find out i had cheated on him in high school until i found out he was cheating on me while i was pregnant. during that time i told him everything and i found out everything he had done behinf my back to, i found out from friends that he threw me under the bus made me look like this monster that i never was and he made him self look like an angel he never told any one what he did on his part. so now my son was 4 months old and we decided to take a "break" sorta cause at home we were still a couple then i found things again that he was with another woman he would take his wedding ring off while he was at work and give me dum excuses about it. for 7 months he kept lying about this other girl i say girl cause she was 20 when my husband met her and my husband was 25, we moved and i found out i was pregnant with our third child and he still was with this other woman even with me begin pregnant with our third kid. i ended up miscarring our third kid, then i started hearing rumors that this other woman was pregnant of course he denied it. i ended up kicking him out of the house and moved back withmy parents because i couldnt take any more, he ended up moving into an apartment with her and 3 months of them living together i found out the truth that she really was pregnant. time as it that she got pregnant the month after i miscarried my third child. he swares he didnt know and that she hid it from him because she so despretly wanted to be with him and she thought by him knowing she was pregnant that would mess up her chance when i found out that day he was blowing up my phone beging and pleading with me not to sign divorce papers and that he didnt want me to leave him and that baby was a mistake and all the other stuff. no one at there job knew she was pregnant and our friends are claiming they found out when i found out. its been 3 months since i found out that she is pregnant and he still claims he wants to be with me and out kids and he wants this marriage to work out, but then sometimes he tell me **** like oh sometimes i think about giving her a chance cause we have a kid then other days he talks about how he cant stand her shes not the same person when he first met her. she annoyes him half the time. but at the end of it all i he wont sign divorce papers. I know he is living a double life cause he talks to me one way when hes around her and when shes not he talks to me another way when hes with me and the kids he doesnt even answer her phone calls he just texts her, he says hes living as her baby daddy and not her boyfriend. we still havent even told our 5 year old daughter about this other baby and i dont know how, cause every time she see him she looks at him and says im your only princess right daddy and the end of the day i know i should just pick up and leave and move on with my life but its so hard i need help. i need advice
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- seedy historyLv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
There is zero reason to tell your 5 year old daughter that her daddy has been screwing around and is making another baby with another woman. Wait. The baby is not due for 6 months and you've no clue what lay ahead. She doesn't need 6 months to look forwards to the birth of a sibling (!) and she doesn't need an extra 6 months of resenting it either. Just wait. What in the world is with the "i'm your only princess right daddy" thing? Setting your little girl up for a world of hurt with all that "princess" stuff no matter how this shakes down. YOU don't feel much like a princess, do you? Life is not about Princesses.
Well, he is living a double life. And will be living a double life for decades to come. Unless SOMEONE puts their foot down about it. Anyway it shakes down, your husband will soon be required to support 3 children and at least one, if not two, women.. hope he's got a very good job or putting a whole lot of effort into getting one to hold on to. His life is going to become very expensive.
My recommendation is that you turn your 24/7 focus away from this (as challenging as that is) and into figuring out a way to acquire the job skills necessary to land YOU a good job so that you can support your family. In the next 6 months.. please get the training or start the education that will help you to build a good life for your family. Doing anything less is sticking your head in the sand and pretending the hurricane isn't blowing up your butt.
- JLv 68 years ago
There's nothing more anyone could add to that.. your marriage ended a long time ago. There's nothing more either of you could do, you've already done the deeds.. you cheated, he cheated, he continues to cheat by having an emotional/financial and probably sexual affair with some other woman. He got her pregnant, had unprotected sex with her, even while still in a sexual relationship with you and married to you. Get tested for STDs and get a divorce, don't talk to him again. You have no self esteem, there is nothing more anyone could say about it... there is absolutely no reason to stay together. Kids shouldn't be raised in that situation. It's disgusting, and not how normal adults behave. I would never ever in my life let a man do that to me. As soon as I knew he cheated on me, I would be gone so fast. He'd never be able to talk to me again... you have been on/off, you 2 have no strong connection. He just cheats on you then cries like a baby when it comes time to divorce and live on his own, cause he is a little child too scared to live life on his own, it's a big scary world out there to this little man-child and he needs a woman to support him and lead him, he doesnt trust his mistress to be that person, he knows it can be sorta okay with you, but he doesn't love you, he just uses you for stability and her for fun. is that what you wanna be? someone's crutch and house cleaner? You know there are some men who wouldn't even consider cheating, right? Let alone having unprotected sex and getting women pregnant behind your back. That's disgusting and ape-like. My husband has never cheated on any female including me. If you love someone and you're dedicated to them then you don't cheat. He doesn't love you
- ErikaLv 45 years ago
I've been on your footwear, except my ex husband acquired a 'buddy' pregnant. This is the item - when you keep married to this man, you can look ahead to the other lady being a everlasting fixture on your existence, as the child is the glue that holds her and your husband together. You will continuously be annoying and looking over your shoulder and wondering whether or not he is doing her when he picks up the child for a discuss with. And of direction, you are going to be expected to play loving stepmother to this child. What you need to ask your self is, 'is this okay with me? Am i able to are living like this for the leisure of my existence?' in the event you answer is not any, then you already know what to do. With pleasant needs. Update: Ash Y just right point! Who are you, the spouse or the opposite lady?
- 8 years ago
You are dumb as bricks, woman.
Get your sh*t, get a lawyer, and GET OUT! Not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, RIGHT NOW! Do not have any further contact with your husband unless it has to do with the children.
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