Do you think this is fair?

Marriage should be a partnership.

If it isn't someone is just being used.

Fairness is a matter of interpretation. The person who winds up homeless is hardly going to find it fair, no matter the circumstances that led up to it. In the western world, religion and law are (supposed to be) separate. Law is often unjust and is an imperfect system, but in an ideal world, the couple divorcing would split all assets acquired during the marriage and keep all assets held before the marriage individually. That is fairness.

If the relationship was equitable and the property was earned during that relationship it is but if the husband or the wife did all of the work aquiring the property with little or no support from the spouse then it should be given to the individual who did all the work.

No as sometimes certain women use Marriage or relationships to get the Blokes Assets and I know 1 personally who tried to claim his House and 800 a month in Child support where she came Unstuck and Luckily for him he had a Vasectomy 10 years earlier. And my vasectomy has caught out a few Cheating Girlfriends as I Do Not tell them I have had one though I tell them I do not want kids Yet they come up with Surprise Where having a Baby only to get "Surprise pack your bags I've had a Vasectomy" LOL

When two people get married, they share everything. They work together to buy a house, or to fill an apartment with furniture. Even if only one is working, they are both giving everything they can to build a life. When they divorce, it IS only fair that each gets half of the life they've built (or equivalent to it). They will each need a house, furniture, a car, etc. All the time, energy, and money they've put in TOGETHER doesn't belong to either of them, but to both.

Obviously it isn't "fair" in every and all divorces. What may be 'fair' in one situation may not be 'fair' in the next. Sometimes the man gets soaked, other times the woman may get left high and dry. The plethora of divorce lawyers and divorce court cases are plenty of evidence to that.

It depends where in the world you live. Cultural and religious groups laws are different from governmental laws. It also depends on what your marriage agreement in your contract says. It depends on what you view as fair. If your marriage agreement states that all assets be split evenly then that is fair.

It's part of the contract you make when you marry someone. Marriage basically means a couple is considered as one person, so it follows that they both own the belongings equally, even if almost everything came from one person before the marriage.

I think no. Ask with Scholars. Or go to Mosque nearby you and consult with Imam or Scholar over there.

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As for Islam A7kam or laws there's always a difference between man and woman share to inherit, woman takes 1/2 of Brother share, wife takes 1/8 of share, but mother takes 1/6 of share of her child. If she doesn't have children so her husband takes it all. It's fair for her because she has always someone how can take care of her expenses as her husband, brother, children, she always have to be taken care of, she doesn't have to pay for live good, someone has to take care of her.

you may check some of Quraan chapters as in El Nesaa suwra, El Ana'm, Al Omran, you may have some laws for women's inherit, but as for divorced women, she has only a part of share as agreed before marriage not the half of his possesses, so if they've agreed on 10000 before marriage for her as Mahr, then she takes it all if she's truly married to him, but if he didn't touch her then she takes only half of the agreed. If she's pregnant or delivered a child then he's to pay for her expenses, his child expenses, and provide her a place to live, the expenses may differ from a family to another as the man can afford for life, he might be poor or very rich, so what he may expend for her might differ in percentage to his living status.

The Christians in arab countries have the advance of implying Islamic laws especially in case of brother and sister, as in Islam the man takes twice of his sister, but in christianity there is no definite law so in foriegn countries they mostly agree with the same share for man and girl, so Men don't have mercy nor relationship for his sister anymore, they become apart, as "she has her money, so why should I spend any for her sake??". But in Islam law, Man should take care of his sister, husband must take care of his wife and daughters, and so on. Islam cares for relationships. but also it allows us to make Waseya (testament) if someone has a debt or wants someone (related or not related to him) to take a share for the will, it's to be around 1/3 the whole share of money or inherit, no more, but might be less than 1/3. So, if I have a will of 100,000, so the 1/3 permitted to give it to someone else is 33,333, and the rest to be divided as in Islamic law between others.

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