What can i do to make things better between my bfs childs mother and i?

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Back in january i had sent some txts to her telling her what i thought about her negatively and bad of a person she is for being a homewrecker. She didnt deserve to be called the ugly names i told her but i do believe the things that i told her was true. Since then it has weigher heavily on my shoulders and i wish i could go back in time to stop myself from hurting her an to save the friendship we had. I do respect her for being my bfs childs mother but part of me doesnt cause of her low morals. Now she doesnt want anything of me and wants me gone for good. She doesnt want me to talk to her or at her house( that is owned by the wife of her bfs)  I can understand why she doesnt like me but her forgiveness would mean alot to me. I have tried texting her meany a time to ask if i can talk to her to give her my apology even tho she doesnt want me to text her. I try not to be to overbearing in fear she could get me on harassment charges even tho since jan. I havent sent anything mean or offensive to her. When i take pics of the child i send them to her cause i figured she would want them. 
So does anyone have any suggestions on what i can do to mend our friendship? I know i am just a gf but my bf and i have big plans for the future and i dont want the mothers hatred for me to come in the way. 
Thanks!

Yanely · Accepted Answer

Well first off, you should let it be. Her dealings with her child, should be done with him, not you. 
And casting judgment on her for being a home wrecker? I'm assuming that YOUR boyfriend cheated on you with her, and she got pregnant. You think she's the bad one? The bad one, the home wrecker, the one with low morals is your boyfriend!! He was the one in a relationship with you, not her. She owes you nothing. She didn't hurt you, he did! So stop projecting your anger at her. 
You are way off on your thinking. I can tell you have very low self-esteem. Everything bad some does to you, is someone else's fault huh? Because you don't have the balls to stand up for yourself. To kick his cheating *** out of your life.
Move on. Leave her alone.

? · Answer

if I am understanding this right, your bf has a child with this woman right? I have said things to people in the past that I regret and sometimes you just cant take it back. just give it time and for gods sake don't do it again if you want a good relationship with her. the best I can say is to appeal to the mother in her. if she is a good mother and loves her child at all, she will understand that you are both in the kids life and that any animosity between the two of you will be harmful to the child. if you are to be a part of the childs life the mother should be at least cordial to you in front of the kid, even if it is just for show. I don't know myself because my children are from my husband and we are still together, but I do have step-parents and it seems like raising another persons child/having your child be raised by someone else, is a very difficult situation. just make sure that you are sincere and try to treat the kid like you would your own. because no matter what happens between you and the mother, all that matters is the child.

Jesse · Answer

If I were you I would bring the child to her yourself for her to have time with the kid. Then you would have a chance to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Hopefully she has it in her heart to forgive you

Anonymous · Answer

i think you should write a letter and be apologetic/express your feelings but if she doesn't want to forgive you thats her problem because you're the bigger person and the ball is in her court.

Tj · Answer

why are u trying to make friend with ur boy friends baby momma

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