why does my mother in law want her son to herself?

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I have been with my husband for over 10years married for 7 years and have 2 sons. We both work full time so trying to juggle work kids house work friends etc can be hard work but we get there.  My husband has been working alot of overtime as we need the money my mother in law does not work and is in good health she takes my sons once every few months. Recently she has been saying to my husband she want to see him on his own. He doesn't understand why and explains he is to busy with work myself and kids. He does see her when dropping off kids. She asked him to go away with her for a holiday weekend just him, he said no.He said when my son starts school he will try and see her more but he is busy. Today i told her i cant wait for our family holiday as i feel as if i dont see him and looking forward to family time. Her Reply was yes i cant wait to spend time with him alone when the wee one goes to school. Is this normal for her to keep wanting to see him on his own he is nearly 40 years. She does not seem to understand the pressure of life and how busy we are and any spear time we have we would like to spend together.

p.s she has another son and doesn't do this with him??

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I had one of these "women" in my life...well lets chop it up to she was one step away from being the actually anti-christ. So i did the whole talking to my hubby and then getting the hubby to her and then all of us talking and the my husband's father ....i mean for 10yrs of my life i feel like i was walking on eggshells....Till i left the husband and surprise surprise can you guess who was the nicest person in the world to me ??? Nice i was never a good enough person while with the son But now she loves me ....ANYWAYS my point some women need help cutting the cord..and while not all women get crazy over their kids and your monster-in -law isn't half as bad as mine was ....YOU need to talk with your husband and have HIM tell her that all tho he loves her his life is you and the kids ...mommy times is long over....

ALSO a side note if their are any mom's reading this ....Cut us women some slack trust me it has been psychologically proven that the son pick a women for a partner in life that reminds him of you SO IF WE AREN'T GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM .........../whisper neither are you :)

? · Answer

That woman is very selfish and is overly controlling her son (your husband). He is a grown man, married and with kids and yet she still treats him like a young child. She must let him go, because he is of age and she has to understand. It is not fair to him because she lets her other son be independent all he wants and is never there for him, doesn't care about him. Your husband needs to talk to his mother. She wants to have him as a mommas boy and that can't be. That will affect him and he is also too old and too big to have a curfew. She has to understand that. It seems like she is going to be sitting in a wheelchair and still telling your husband what to do and what not to do. You, your husband and your kids should move out of her presence. Let's see if she will continue to be strict when you move. It seems like she never wanted for him to marry nor have kids and is pissed off at the fact that he did.

Sharon · Answer

My mother-in-law was the same way. People are who they are. I even bought a book called "Living Successfully with Screwed Up People". Check it out.

mattcfj · Answer

She obviously loves her son

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