Is it bad for uncles to spoon their nieces?

Or is it just sweet?

Is it normal?

What if the child doesn't want it?

Could it be argued that the uncle's relationship with his own daughter was so weak that he felt he needed a connection with another child about his daughter's age?

I'm a little confused right now regarding some boundary lines. I'm not sure if any were maybe crossed when I was a child. Is spooning crossing a line? And, not massaging the butt in an obviously creepy way, but just having your hand on it: is that "wrong"? So many "inappropriate" things (from my perception) were done, but they fall into the grey area of behavior and it was all so nonchalant. It makes me feel bad for questioning it at all. Here's another that maybe is an inappropriate memory, but maybe if I looked at it differently it would be sweet: he told me to lay with him on the couch. I didn't want to so I shook my head "no" but eventually he coerced me. We were laying there and he told me to lay on his butt so I did. Somehow I think his hand was on mine, but I don't even know if that's physically possible.

Then he turns over, opens his legs, and playfully straddles my head with his legs. I was saying, "no, no, no", but I think he found it funny.

Is that sweet or creepy? I really don't know how to view these things.

How would you feel if you were the mother and you walked in on the (now estranged) uncle being that close? How would you feel as the child? As the uncle even?

Is this behavior normal and perhaps I'm just naïve?

Thanks