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My 6 year old son constantly needs to show me things.?
He is a well rounder, stable, independent, friendly full confident good boy that makes friends very quickly. But he constantly needs to show me things, all sorts of things big and small. I would be busy on the phone, and he would run up to me and have the need to show me something, I would be busy in an important conversation getting direction when I am lost, or what ever then, I need to stop my conversation, because he would be standing next to me, saying: ‘Mommy, Mommy’ the whole time, until I give him attention, and he would show me a fly, not like we have not seen one before, it’s driving me to a point of exhausting. I don’t know, is this normal behaviour? Am I doing something wrong?
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- Anonymous8 years agoFavorite Answer
It can be exhausting, but you really don't want to discourage this. He's discovering the world around him and even though it may seem tedious to you, it is very exciting to him. Don't push these things aside as unimportant. They are important to him. Also you could use them as learning opportunities, when he brings you something you have seen already, teach him something new about it. And if you don't know anything go look it up with him together, he will love that. And when he brings that same thing to you again ask him what he knows about it to see if he remembers what was learned, if he doesn't remember keep up with the same thing. However I bet you will be surprised some of the things he will remember.
To help with the interruptions you might start to teach him about waiting his turn. When doing this you also need to realize he is just a kid and while 5 minutes isn't very long to you it can seem like an eternity to him. Remember as the 'Mommy' you are your son's first source for everything. Food, love, help and knowledge. Also at this stage he wants to share everything he is with you. It can be overwhelming but you will be amazed how much he blossoms with a little bit of encouragement.
Another thing if you are going to be on a long important call you could tell him before, or if the call comes in to you put them on hold for a moment, and have him maybe draw pictures of all of the neat things he finds so he can show you all at once when you are done. This may or may not work for your son. All kids are going to be different. However I do think if you implement the learning and slowly introduce the waiting to him things will get much less exhausting for you.
Well good luck
- KukanaLv 78 years ago
He's clearly a needy child, who is jealous of your attention going to other people. Make sure that you do give him a lot of positive attention, and whenever possible look at whatever it is with him. At six, the world is still an exciting place and he wants to share his discoveries with the person he loves the best. Never ever reject him or tell him not to bother you - and please don't get into the negative trap of thinking about punishments which are never appropriate or helpful.
If you're doing something else, put your finger to your lips, give him a hug if you can, and say, 'in a moment'. Then, when you are able, give him your full attention. After you've looked at whatever it was, say, 'I can see you were really eager to show me (whatever).' - Give him a chance to talk about it, then say gently, 'Sometimes I have to talk to (whoever) and I don't like being interrupted. It makes the conversation take longer.' He will probably talk about that, too. Then ask him for suggestions as to what he can do if he wants to show you something when you are clearly busy doing something else. It's best if he comes up with his own ideas, but perhaps if he doesn't, you could suggest he write you a note, or draw a picture of whatever it is, so that he won't forget and so that you'll know that he is very keen to show you something when you're available.
This phase wont last long and in a few years when he doesn't want to tell you anything much, you'll look on it with great nostalgia.
- redheadedLv 78 years ago
It is normal and you do not want to squash his amazement and curiosity. But he is old enough to learn when to tell you and when to wait, and that is what you need to teach him. Talk to him before you go somewhere about him waiting if you are talking to somebody or driving, etc. The more you stop and give in to him the harder it will be to teach him. But when you are able to give him your attention don't forget to do so. It's important to him and you never know what area in his life he will be good at as a result of his interests at a young age.
- elaeblueLv 78 years ago
No - that is just the nature of a boy this age. They all do it.
Maybe he hasn't seen a fly close up! Things we adults take for granted - kids don't. They find all kinds of things interesting,
You can work with him to wait til you are done with what you are doing.. just remember to get back with him ...take a look at his interesting find so he knows you will do that when you are done. Tell him you are on the phone and please wait a minute...
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- Anonymous8 years ago
To this day, I am exactly like your description. When I was young, I was diagnosed with ADHD. I refused to take meds for a while and my parents didn't push me to seek treatment until 6th grade, when I decided on my own to see a neurologist. After taking several ADD meds and finding one that worked well with me, I can honestly say that I wish my parents had gotten me diagnosed much, much sooner. You are doing everything right, don't worry :) as long as you raise a happy child, you cannot do better! He probably has attention problems though, and if you deal with it sooner rather than later, he will do amazingly better in school and enjoy it without struggling...His persistence will be a blessing later in life. Believe me!
- 8 years ago
My son was just like that. He is an only child and used to getting my undivided attention. I firmly but nicely told him that he is not to interrupt when I am talking, unless it was an emergency. He still does it, but rarely. It is a work in progress, but it seems to be helping a lot. Now I just have to give him "the look" and he stops talking and waits. hhahaha! ;-)
- ?Lv 78 years ago
It's normal. But what isn't normal is your behavior. Any time he does this "mommy mommy" crap he needs a time out, a treat or toy taken away or a smack on the butt until he learns to stop that foolishness. Are you really telling me that you would actually look at crap while driving just to appease a 6 year old? Even if it meant getting in a wreck and killing him? You need to start acting like a parent and putting your foot down. And he has to learn that sometimes mommy is busy. But he'll never learn if you just keep letting him run the show.
- ?Lv 78 years ago
Very normal. Your son is trying to connect with you. He wants to bring you back into him world. I agree that it is your behavior that isn't normal. Spend more time with him.
Source(s): homeschooling mom of 3 - 8 years ago
i use to be like that too, if my mom or dad doesnt see what i discover or acomplished there is no one else to share it to, and it is very dissatifying. you just have to be patient and pretend to be amazed