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If something reminds you of your ex are you not over them yet?
A while ago I tried to get my boyfriend to watch a film with me and he refused, literally would not watch the film I picked out and kept saying he just didn't want to over and over. I kept asking for a reason but he wouldn't give one, just that he didn't want to watch it.
Recently I've learnt it was because the film reminds him of his ex (the emperors new groove and he he used to call her his little llama or something), firstly it annoyed me that he didn't feel he could tell me this, but mostly it bothered me because surely, if he's truly over her, he shouldn't care? As in, it shouldn't even be occurring to him to make the connection.
I mean I never get reminded of my ex even though I still hang out with the person who introduced us and when I watch things we watched together, it just doesn't even enter my mind.
So do you think he's still not over her? I mean their break up was really bad so maybe he's more effected by her than I was by my ex but still it's been over a year he should be over her -_-
4 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
not at all. i hate my ex, she ran off with my best mate.however, sometimes things trigger them. a random memory, something you see. he's probably trying to avoid dealing with her as he doesn't want to anymore. obviously avoiding something that directly will remind him of her is a good way to do that.
Source(s): crazy women - Anonymous8 years ago
Not necessarily - no matter how a relationship ends there will always have been good and happy times that were shared. We all keep memories of our good times, no matter who they were with. Very often there are triggers - songs, films, places, even smells - that bring those memories back. However having a good memory doesn't mean that you are still hung up on the person we shared it with. Clearly in your boyfriends case he isn't ready to deal with that memory yet in a grown up way but then guys emotionally mature much later than girls. You are probably about 3 years more mature than him - that is why you are able to deal with it better than him. Of course the break up wasn't his choice and was messy but really after a year he should be over it - she isn't coming back and he has you. Mind you if he called her his "Little Llama" its no surprise they split up - a perfect illustration of his immaturity. Maybe you are starting to find his behaviour a little annoying - perhaps you need to reassess your relationship. Good luck and take care :)
- 8 years ago
He might be over her, but the thing is everyone is different. Things can trigger our memory responce and remind us of pleasant or un-pleasant memories. For example, someone who has been abused when they were young by their father who was a drunk, the smell of alcohol can still trigger unpleasant memories, even if it was several years ago. Everyone is different and deals with things differently. I'd say go easy on him. It's not easy & sometimes people cant help how their brains respond to things.
- Anonymous8 years ago
There's lots of things that remind me of my past relationships but doesn't meen anything yes it brings back memory's but that's in the past and there an ex for a reason hope this helps :) don't think anything of it :)
