How can I deal with my younger brother?

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Me and my younger brother have got on fine for our entire life, up until the last few months. Now he just seems to always go out of his way to cause conflict between us.

Let me explain: I'm 16 and he's 13 and a half, but he often acts like he's older than me: ridiculing me with smirks and cocky laughing at things I say, and just generally not paying attention when I ask him to do things, such as going out of my room.

Despite the age gap, I'm not much taller than him (I'm pretty short for a 16-year-old male), so he likes to cause arguments, as I am probably not as intimidating as an average 16-year-old. He also bosses me around, such as telling me not to do things such as stroking our dog, and sometimes hitting me if I don't listen to him (this usually results in me hitting him back, which I know is immature, but I just get so frustrated that I can't help myself).

My dad says I should just rise above it and that would make him realise that he is being childish, but this is really difficult as I just can't stand his cockiness lately. I really wish I had the same good relationship with my brother that I used to, can anyone suggest what I should do? Thanks.

Anonymous · Answer

There's a few things to explain this,let me explain...
1. You have to put into consideration that he is a growing teenage boy who is going to be annoying,get moody get all cocky but I can guarantee any 13 year old boy is like that with older brothers/sisters.
2.maybe,just maybe..he wants your attention and the only way he gets it is by being annoying&i can tell you myself I'm 14 and have an elder brother and sister and I'm not going to lie but that's how I get their attention..it's normal :)
Or maybe he's hanging about with the wrong people influencing him to do the stuff he does or he learns his way of them
Hope I helped :)

Anonymous · Answer

I have the same thing with my younger sister:( mostly I find ignoring it does help:) it's hard but I think they eventually get that you're not going to react:) also if he does get too much and you want to slap him seriously walk the dog it helps to get away from them for a bit:) also blackmailing seriously helps a lot for example my sister hit the house window with a stone left a dent anytime she annoyed me too much I threatened to tell mum about the incident (she never found out it was my sister who did it) or even if he likes someone threaten to tell the person he fancies:) it's great works a treat:)

S · Answer

Okay Big Bro, here we go:  

sudden mood changes = some kind of drugs, new friends, something happened.  Do ur research, find ur solution.  Maybe involve mom/dad into this once u have verified what u have found out.  No one changes like that unless something has really, really changed.

Señor Michaels · Answer

When he laughs at what you say, just keep talking and ignore him, it will guarantee to send him a message that you are Rising above him, and you're not messing around. If he hits you I would just get him in a sleeper hold lock telling him not to mess with you.

To deal with laughing at me in my house i'd just make up a silly name for him. Otherwise i'd just take him out of my life for meanwhile. You can also spend time with friends at their houses so he can understand himself.

Anonymous · Answer

Ignore him. Stop talking to him.  I have a similar scenario and I stopped talking for 1 1/2 months now. Life is so much more peaceful ^_^

!~Moo~! · Answer

When my brother and I went through this stage I just always replied with an 'Okay' and a dull stare. He quickly lost interest and went away. If he touches you just stare...he wouldn't know what to do!

? · Answer

Sorry but this is not your problem to sort your parents should be doing this. Ask them what they intend to do about his behaviour lately and are they going to just leave it x

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