My wife and I have decided to have an abortion, how do we break the news to the surrogate mother?

Be open with your surrogate. I would suggest reviewing your contract as well. Most contracts will state under what circumstances an abortion will be agreed to. Surrogates are aware that the intended parents may choose to abort and how far into the pregnancy they may abort. Being that the earlier the abortion the easier it will be on the surrogates body, please do not take your time in telling her.

Tell her that due to the health conditions of this baby, you will not want to continue the pregnancy. That being said, if you plan to try for another pregnancy, you could always ask her if she would consider carrying for you again.

These are never easy decisions. Good luck.

A surrogate mother is one who has the baby for a couple who cant conceive. If your wife is pregnant with another mans sperm and is carrying the baby for someone else then your wife is the surrogate mother. If you want to have an abortion and abort another mans baby I think you need to speak to a solicitor about all this, I dont know how legal anything is. If you entered into a contract then technically your wife may be murdering this mans child, as I say I dont know the legalities of this so get some advice.

I don't really understand your question sorry.

You discuss with her you and your wife's decision. However, a surrogate mother has certain rights too. If you and your wife have chosen not to have the child but the surrogate mother chooses not to put HER body through the process of an abortion, you cannot force her. Even the courts cannot make her. Basically, you and your wife would sign over your parental rights to the child, thus freeing you of any emotional, mental, moral and financial support. And the surrogate could continue the pregnancy, if she chooses.

If not, then she can terminate the pregnancy without incident. But I assume if you're asking how to break the news to her, then you're assuming she won't want to.

I'm assuming baby has a condition such as down syndrome or something? Not that this is a better explanation for having an abortion, but I don't see why else you would go through getting a surrogate pregnant and then killing the baby..

Anyways, all you can really do is be honest. Tell her your reasons and apologize. I find it extremely horrible to make a woman go through something like that, especially because most people don't believe in abortions. Crazy, if it were your wife....I'm sure she'd have second thoughts. But, since she doesn't have to go through it - it's easy to just get rid of the kid, right?

dear Brian Cohen at least and temporary custody to a family or relatives?(when everything is well you can keep him\her without abortion)or at least give the baby up for OPEN or close adoption(even in an other country if you want to)....cause adoption or custody so life is better than abortion..

adopting parents may pay everything in pregnancy!”

then there's also open adoption so you can follow your child growing up :)

love and life are sacrifices but they're better than abortion!

so please the most important thing is:not abort,then I suggest keeping him\her and you see “THANKS”in his\her smile because you didn’t abort him\her despite your difficulties!

then adoption or custody is better than abortion that doesn't let the baby live and hurts you too

Why would you go threw the trouble of finding a woman to carry your child and spend money to impregnate her if you weren't absolutely certain that you wanted a child?

By rabbit punching her in the stomach and yelling "SUPRISE!"

just tell her you can't sugar coat it and keep from her forever. She has the right to know.