I slapped my boyfriend, and he slapped me back?

Well.. this was an important lesson for both of you.

First, you tell him that you will never hit him again.

Then you tell him that if he ever so much as makes you flinch, the relationship is over.

You should not have hit him. But as a male, he ought to know his own strength and that he should not have full on slapped you.

And yes. I would consider his response a red flag. Because there are rare times, when a female WILL slap a male in the face. I don't care what the anti-violence peeps babble about. They've never been cheated on and laughed at by their husband when confronted with it. For that... he deserves a slap in the face.

Slapping him in the face because he told you to eat sh1t and die? No.

Laughs at you when you confront him with his cheating? Yes.

Don't act like a victim here, you're not. Violence is not okay in a relationship, period. Men shouldn't hit women. However just because you have a vagina does not give you the greenlight to slap your boyfriend. That's just as unacceptable, and you started it.

Nothing gives you the right to put your hands on your partner, whether you're male or female. My wife has never hit me, even if she did I wouldn't hit her back, but I'd definitely restrain her. Thank god we don't have that kind of relationship.

Don't hit someone if you don't want to be hit in return. He didn't beat you. He gave you right back what you gave him. So learn from it, don't hit him again because its not okay.

Why would this be a red flag? You hutting him may have sent red flags up to him about you. You aren't innocent. The situation started with you raising your hand in violence so let it go. Talk things out with him and tell him how you feel but use your words.

You're a woman but that doesn't make it okay to swing on your man.

Yes. If he is degrading you to the point of violence then he hits you back harder it is a huge red flag You 2 are a bad combo.

I think you should talk to him about what happened that day and go from there. Maybe he only did it because you slapped and wanted you to see what the shoe one the other felt like (as wrong as it was no matter what the case was).

If I were you I would talk to him about what happened and see if you feel better about it. What was he doing that you felt was degrading? If he is a jerk leave him in the dust.

I wasn't there, didn't see anything, so I can't judge. Men are taught not to hit women, but I also feel it's wrong for a women to hit a man, so you get what you give!

Both of you are not ready to be in a relationship. Grow up.

How can you hit someone and not expect something to happen?

yes

he has alot more reflex left in him

you are right ! i agree with you