Lesbians: trying to understand, please help?

Okay so first! I don't find homo offensive in the least..... It's just shortening homosexual. Am I right?

Personally, I think attraction is all about the person within. Now, appearance and gender do have a lot to do with it. Blind people can still be heterosexual even if they can't see the person.

But when I'm with a girl, I'm just thinking about how white her teeth are, how her hair smells. Things that aren't really gender specific.

I don't like men not because of their appearance, but because men generally make me feel controlled and condescended, rather than protected and valued as straight women feel. So being with a more masculine woman isn't like trying to find a middle ground between a male and a female. For me it's just like being with a unique individual.

Still, I prefer girls like myself, very feminine. Or, even better, feminine girls with a bunch of tattoos and a daredevil attitude!

Anyhow, just one person's sexuality for ya.

I don't see the difference with straight people. Imagine this. A normal average guy with a really attractive woman. Many people wonder how the hell they got together, and what this girl could possibly see in him. So you see, it's the same the situation. And all about preference. Also another example as how girls go out with douchebag dudes. That's all there is to it. It's the same pattern, you just can't see it since it involves the same sex. I find it a BIT insulting putting quotation marks around lifestyle, how nice of you. -.-

We all have our 'types'. Some of us are more comfortable living very feminine and also like to date the same while others like to date more butchy gals.

Some butchy women are more comfortable with other butchy women and some are more comfortable with softer feminine women.

It is not a 'man' we are searching for. We do not want their macho attitudes or the junk in their pants.

I personally am more attracted to women who are a bit femme but not a lot. I have no interest in dealing with someone who is high maintenance: hair styling, nails, girly clothes. I would rather be with someone who is not afraid to get her handy dirty on some project around the house but also looks nice when 'she cleans up'. I consider myself more of a 'tomboy' type of personality but now that I'm older no one notices. lol

HUGS from a senior lesbian

Please do not use the word 'homo' . Thanks

First off I would like to say that being homosexual is not a lifestyle. We are born this way. Is it a lifestyle to be something you can't control?

A lot of times in the media, homosexuals are very stereotyped. You cannot believe everything you see on TV or the movies. And to answer your question, it is just people's personal preference to whom they like. There are some hreteosexual women who are attracted to skinny guys, some to tall guys, some to big guys. Some heterosexual guys attracted to big breast, some to short girls, some to tall girls.... whatever.

If you can't wrap your "hetero brain" around "homo" questions, you might at least wrap it around the idea that "homo" is an offensive term.

There is a tremendous difference between a butch woman and a man - any man. You don't HAVE to understand it, but it seems rather obvious that a man has a penis and a woman does not. That's most of the argument, right there.