I am the pefect housewife but not the perfect woman... advice?

i have been there before. my husband and i have been together 7 years next month i also got pregnant 5 months after we got together and miscarried and then 3 months later got pregnant again. i have been a stay at home mom since 08 and i understand the weight gain trust me i do and its even harder to loose it when ur at home all the time takin care of the kids and the house. if he acts like that towards u just because u have gained a lil weight he is a a** for treating u that way. there is no reason y he should be lookin at other girls on dating websites and gettin off to them. it sounds like to me u can do way better then him. tell him how u feel and if things dont change i would tell him to kick rocks!!! i was in the same situation with my husband not to long ago. he was talkin to someone and told me he was and i told him it was her or his family and he changed after that. there is no reason y a guy should walk all over u like that. u can do way better then him. u will find someone that will love u for who u r and not want to change u. and if he only loved u and wanted to have sex with u when u where smaller then what u r now then he never really cared about u and never really loved u he was with u because he needed arm candy. i hope this helps u and just keep ur head up things will get better but only if u make the first move and make them better and change them.

There is NO perfect person at all. He is a cheater and even flaunts it in your face so what you need to do is stop trying to get him back as he isn't worthy of you. Leave him, take the kids, file for child support, get counseling, and move on. He will not stop no matter what you do. So what you have gained weight, he probably has too.

Go back to school. Getting out of the house and doing something productive will boost your self-esteem. You can arrange classes to suit your child care needs, night classes, online, both ...Your kids are almost school age. You will be able to get a job and move out. I would take this time now to prepare yourself for life on your own. It won't be easy but you can do it, strong women do it all of the time.

and what are you doing to fix the situation on your part? are you a stay at home girlfriend? if so, is the house a mess? are the kids PROPERLY taken care of? are you trying to keep your affection and sex life interesting? if the answer is no, then you need to step it up. if your always telling him no when there was a sex life and he wanted to try stuff, you could have shut him down. my ex-wife was always telling me no and making intimacy sound like it was a real hassle, and i ended up shutting down to her. sure i would watch porn and jerk off, but when it came to being with her i just didnt care anymore. always being told no when im not asking for anything crazy is a HUGE turn off and after a handful of no's you can kiss your intimacy goodbye.

it sounds like you need to find the root of the problem and fix that before you can expect any man to want to take more interest in you than his video games

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