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I currently have a 20 gallon fish tank. In the tank I originally had two dwarf cichlids, a dwarf honey gourami, five pristella tetras, a marble loach, and a baby bistlenose pleco.

My mom had a 20 gallon tank as well but she could no longer look after the fish she had. So she brought them over and asked me to look after them. I told her that there were too many but she pleaded and I can't so no to my mom (easily).

So now, along with my fish there is a kissing molly, two glowlight tetras, two zebra danios and a cory catfish.

My first question, is a 20 gallon tank too small for the amount of fish? Second, if it is too small, how soon should I get a bigger tank. Currently I am looking for a second hand tank. New tanks can cost $500 - $700 and I can't afford that. So will they be okay until I find a bigger tank?

And please no judging. I never planned on having this many fish and I am doing whatever I can within my power to fix this problem, if it is a problem.

I have in one tank, two blue ram cichlids (one female, one male), five pristella tetras, a yoyo loach, clown pleco, and a male gourami.

The problem is, the male blue ram is chasing the female blue ram. I have had these fish for about two weeks. I mean all of the fish. All of them are still babies and still have some growing up to do. The blue rams have always stuck together. I know cichlids can be territorial so I have already suspected that a little battle would sprout for territory eventually. But the male blue ram allows all the other fish into it's territory except for the female blue ram. The female is shooed into the open area of the tank while he claims the entire area that is covered. Pretty much the whole back wall and left side of the tank is covered in plants, rocks and drift wood. If the female blue ram is chased, she looses all of her colors on her body (not fins), then the color slowly comes back and she tries again to go into the planted area.

This only started when I did a water change yesterday and I moved the decorations around. I have a 38 gallon long tank. (I don't know the exact dimensions but it is definitely longer then it is taller or wide).

So, will this aggression continue? Is my female blue ram's life in danger? Did my water change and decoration movement start this behavior? And what can I do for the female blue ram to feel secure?

This is weird for me. I have four fish tanks, three i have had set of for years and new one. Someone wanted to get rid of some junk they had lying around and they gave me a 30 gallon tank with hood, lights and filter. I washed them out when I got home and a day later, set it up. I waited three weeks and added some pristella tetras and a Gourami. A couple weeks later algae really started to sprout and I figured it was time to get a pleco in the tank. I got a clown pleco, not one I have had before, but I am not sure if this has a reason to my problem or not but I thought I would mention it.

Anyway, so for a week things went well. I left the algae on the drift wood and a medium sized rock when I did a water change. I vacuumed the rocks and rinsed the plants and used the chlorine remover and cleaned the glass of the tanks. Within a day the two inch baby clown pleco ate all of the algae off the driftwood and rock. But my main problem, no algae is growing. The pleco has not eaten in two days. From my experience algae grows fairly quickly and a baby pleco would not have been able to eat what I had left for him so quickly. The driftwood isn't small... its more than a foot long and two inches round (roughly). But there is no more algae and so far, nothing seems to be growing. I have algae pellets but they dissolve before he can find them. I have never had this problem. Algae always grows in tanks. This is my smallest tank so maybe there is something that I should have done that I didn't.

Please help before the pleco starves. What should I do?

A little about myself, I am 23 years old, over weight, have three kids and I do have other medical problems like sponged kidneys and ovarian cysts.

Four years ago I went to see my family doctor about sever chest pain and hot flashes. The doctor made me one of those depression things and I guess I scored low on it. At the time she made me do it, I was having some family issues, financial issues, and I had just given birth to twins, so my stress was high. So the doctor diagnosed me with panic attacks and prescribed me Ativan. She told me to take them when ever I was having one. But the Ativan never worked. The only way for me to feel any relief during a panic attack is to sleep and more often then not, when I wake up, the pain is gone.

Three years later, more family problems and I went into deep depression. I saw a theripist and told him about my panic attacks. When I told him the symptoms he looked at me funny and said that it did not sound like panic attacks.

My symptoms are just simply chest pain and hot flashes. That is it. No freaking out, no worrying about anything. I could be having the time of my life and then chest pain suddenly comes and then the hot flashes start with no sweating.

The therapist sent me to get an EKG of my heart. The emergency doctor said that my heart was fine and left it at that.

I have gone to see my new family doctor about it and she set me to get an x-ray. After the x-ray I had not heard from her so when I called they said there was nothing wrong. They didn't even set up a second appointment.

To this day, I still do not know if I have panic attacks or if something is seriously wrong, or if it is all in my head. I have tried just "ignoring" the pain. Trying to act as if nothing was wrong but that kind of pain can be hard to ignore sometimes.

Since doctors have been no help, I was hoping there was someone out there who have experienced these symptoms and can clarify if I am having panic attacks or not. Does anyone know what I have been experiencing?

I have not changed my diet or changed my daily tasks. For about a week, I have felt really hungry. I just ate dinner and felt satisfied, not full, but not hungry. I never stuff myself to the point of stuffed. I have eaten this way for years. But why am I starving? I just ate.

I am 23 years old and healthy. No, I am not pregnant. Can anyone explain to me why I am so hungry., even though I have just finished eating and why this has been going on for a week?

My bottom lip splits every october and every may. In october it splits until about january when it heals and then resplits in may and heals by june. This has been a cycle ever since i was kid. The doctor first told me that I just have dry lips so recommend an over the counter lip balm. It does not work. I have tried it twice. Then the doctor said i was low is zinc and gave me a zinc vitamin. It also does not work.

So now, losing faith in what doctors say, I am looking for someone who has or had the same problem and has any idea why my lip splits, in the same spot, every year, at the same time. Please hlep?

In my house there is my husband and roommate. My husband works but our roommate does not. Both of them eat so much. My husband takes three sandwiches and granola bars to work for lunch. Our roommate buys pizza pockets and take four of those for lunch.

Yesterday, I bought 9 pizzas for dinner. I wanted them to last a couple days for leftovers so I did not have to make dinner since I will be busy. I had three slices yesterday while both my husband and roommate had a box to themselves. Today for lunch I took two slices and went to get some for dinner but all nine boxes were already gone. I had maybe a half a box, so where did the other 8 and half boxes go?

I was so angry that I told them to begin buying their own food. They looked so guilty that I felt bad for scolding them but they are eating more then I make in a month. (I work part time and go to school).

Anyway, so why do they eat so much? I have even seen my brother fill his plate fuller then it can handle. Where do they put it all?

Right now, I have a cold with a sever cough. Ever since the cough, I have been bleeding a little and is sorta smells like cat urine. The blood is mostly a light pink but can be a bright red. In the blood there are little bits of something that looks like blood clotting but stringier. (If that makes sense. It is kind of hard to explain). I still have a week and a half before it should be my period and I have not experienced a period like this. I also have ovarian cysts. One on each ovary that have continued to grow, and because of complications they cannot be removed until they have become life threatening. Last time they were checked they were the size of a baseball (that was about three weeks ago). So I was wondering if this blood could be from a cyst bursting. There is no pain. Not even period cramping. I cannot go see a doctor until tuesday, so I was wondering if anyone had any ideas to what this bleeding is?

I am a stay at home mom who also taking college through a distant learning program.

Right now, me and my boyfriend of six years have been living with his mother. We also have three kids. Dar (my boyfriend's mom (fake name)) has two dogs and a cat. Throughout the day my boyfriend (Ron, fake name) and Dar go to work while I stay home and watch the animals and my kids and attempt to do my own schooling, plus chores, feeding the kids, walking the dogs, grooming the dogs, making sure the kids occupied, grocery shopping, making sure dinner is cooked before everyone gets home from work and then doing those dishes.

I feel like I do EVERYTHING around here. Recently, Dar allowed a friend of her's (Pat) to move in. He too has a dog...................

So now in a small one story four bedroom house, there is four adults, three kids, three dogs, and a cat. The house is hectic.

The problem, I am sick of making everyone else happy, but me. When Dar comes home she doesn't say thank you for doing the dishes or mopping the floors. She b!tch3s that a spoon is on the table, or that the garbage is full or one of the kids shoes were not put on the shoe rack.

When Ron gets home, he can't tolerate our kids. They get hyper after dinner and he starts yelling at them for playing, okay, maybe not yelling but annoyed and makes them stop and when they don't listen he sends them to time out... I usually get them out and take them into a room to play until I am interrupted by the washing machine.

Pat goes to school, like he actually goes to the college building and relies on Dar or Ron for a ride in and out of the city every morning and every night. This puts me out since I rely on Ron being home so I can leave the kids to him after dinner and I can do my own schooling online. But apparently, Pat is more important. I once told Ron that he could not drive Pat and Pat threw a hissy fit and Ron took him anyway and I lost three hours of schooling, which is a big deal.

I have sat down and told everyone my problem and asked that they help me out and to understand where I am coming from. They all said that they agreed to be more lenient but things have not changed.

And for those who are wondering why we have not moved out, is because my boyfriend does not make enough to support all five of us. Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate that Dar opened her house to us, and she knows it, even though we pay her rent and buy her groceries, but my stress is bad. I cry every night.

Why can't they do their own laundry? Why can't they vacuum the floors? Why do I have to be scolded when I don't do it. At first I was happy to make everyone happy, and I did these things out of the goodness of my heart, but now it is expected of me. There is no daycare here, and my oldest daughter just started kindergarten so now I have the new task of making her lunch, getting the kids dressed for morning and walking them all to the school. Then have to prepare the two youngest to go pick up their sister from school.

I am just tired. I am so exhausted. I have lost all my friends because I had to stay home with my kids and cook dinner instead of accepting their invitations to the bar, or the mall, or a concert. My own mother can't stand the noise of my house so if I want to see her, I have to go there but I can't because I have to make sure everything is in tip top shape at home. Ron goes out with his friends ALL the time and even makes new ones at his job. And when I ask him to not go he whines that he has had a long day and needs to "chill". We have fights over this, and other things, but I give up and he goes on his way. I have tried making friends with the mothers at my daughters school but they never offer their phone numbers to me and never call me even though I have given them my number. (One did call and asked if I could babysit, stupid me I said yes and after that day I have not heard from her).

But anyway, since my talk with the household did not seem to work, what else do I do? How do I get my family to understand that I too have school to do, and work very hard during the day they have nothing nice to say about it. What do I do?

I know the title sounds a little ridiculous but...

I have a two year warranty for an Asus laptop. I bought it in April of this year, so it's still practically new. Randomly one day my keyboard on the laptop started acting funky and not even an external keyboard worked properly, however the on screen keyboard does work. I brought it to the store in which I have the warranty and it has been there just over a week.

Yesterday they called and said they could not figure out what was wrong with it. They have tried everything from cleaning the system to replacing the keyboard and still can't fix it. Now they have sent it to a specialist.

It just got me thinking, what if they cannot fix it? The computer is barely seven months old and I also bought a $250 warranty, $1300 in total for something that only lasted seven months? Should they replace it? I need it for school and I cannot afford a new computer.

A few days ago, my laptop's keyboard has been acting strange. Not one of the keys are acting as they should be. Currently I am using the on screen keyboard.

If I was to type 'good afternoon.' it would look like this...

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erny7o9o9mhj

Yes, I actually used the internal keyboard to write that gibberish. Also, when not even touching the keyboard it will randomly write lines of 4 or b. Also it will bring up the right click menu, and scroll down pages as if you hit the page down or spacebar buttons. I need this computer for school which needs a keyboard. Everything else on the computer works perfectly.

I have tried reinstalling and updating the driver, about 100 reboots, scanned for viruses and tried disabling it so I could use an external keyboard.

Has anyone ever had this problem and know how to fix it. it is no longer under warranty.

My kitchen window has taken four birds' lives this year and has injured and stunned about ten others. In our back yard neighbour's yard is a fence lined with trees that have purple leaves that the birds tend to like, plus we have a tree about five feet to the window. This causes quite a problem. I have many bird boxes prepared just in case it turns into an emergency.

What I want is how or what can I do to prevent my window from harming any more birds? The number of injuries tend to rise with each year. This window is also the only window in the room so I would prefer not to block it with anything that will prevent light coming through but if I have to, I will. Any thoughts?

Okay, so me and my common law husband have been on the edge since we started dating six years ago. I got pregnant sometime after 4 months of dating. We now have a five year old and twins who are four next month.

Anyway, lately I have been feeling really upset. I have no trust for him since his past cheating three years ago. When he gets home from work, he eats the dinner I make, leaves me the dishes while he plays his PS3 and then he falls asleep cuddling his controller. He has joined me in bed for over a year. He comes home and kisses me, but that is all the love I get. He searches woman up on dating sites just to jack off to them because sex from me isn't good enough. Yeah, I have gained weight, I have become more frusterated and I am now beginning to distance myself from him but he doesn't even try.

I need to know. Where I am, there is no daycare, and I have no where to go. Leaving him would force me into welfare in a dead end city until my kids all start school full time and I can finally get a job. I don't know what to do. As much as I love him, I can't stand the headaches I get from crying everyday. Does anyone that has ever been in a similar situation know what I can do?

Okay, so the situation is hard to explain, and I don't want anyone to get the wrong Idea.

My mother in-law is the worst dog owner I have ever met. She also can't afford them. I watch these dogs 12 or more hours a day. I live with her and if I wasn't here, the dogs would be locked in there kennels for 20 hrs a day. (While she is at work and when she sleeps). They are never brushed and they never go for walks.

Anyway, so she decided to start babysitting one of her friends dogs while he studies for exams. (Which means I'm babysitting) and this dog has an ear infection or something wrong with his ears. My mother in law refuses to get him checked and he real owner says he has had it for a very long time. Basically, he walks with his head tilted and when he shakes his head he yelps. I see nothing though. No redness or pus. I would take him in myself but I can't afford it. It pains me to see these dogs treated the way they are and there is nothing I can do. We don't have anyone around here who recuses animals so unfortunately a home remedy is all I can do.

Does someone know what I can use for this dog's ear? Even if it's a pain reliever.

I have a three year old who will be four in a couple months, who constantly touches things. My curling iron, shavers, shampoos, lotion, my vacuum, the list goes on. He has toys but he totally ignores them (even a toy vacuum that makes realistic noises). I'll set up crafts like drawing, and he's totally not interested. He eats moon dough or play dough so very rarely do I set those kinds of crafts out but there are other crafts I set out. If I let him play outside he'll climb on the wood pile and he knows he's not supposed to or he'll turn on the outside faucet and hose when they have a kiddy pool or water guns that he can play with. He'll climb on the counters to play with the bathroom lights or faucets or go after food, (mostly the treats). When I take him to the park he is more interested in climbing peoples fences to then he is climbing on the play ground.

I have two daughters as well, one is my son's twin sister and the other is my five year old. They very, very rarely touch and I need to tell them once and they leave that object alone for good. My son will touch whether we are watching him or not. I'm a stay at home mom so he mostly gets into trouble when my back is turned while cleaning or cooking. My husband and I are very frustrated and no longer have anymore room to stuff stuff on the top shelves.

Time out, the corner, in his room, not feeding him lunch, giving the girls a treat and not him. These are what we have tried in the last three years, pretty much since he could walk. I'll turn my back for one second and he's into something. A year ago when we were moving we made the kids stay in the living room while we packed and he got a hold of my car keys and stuck it into an outlet. It's getting really bad and we at the end of our rope. I find myself yelling at him and at the end of the day my throat hurts and I have a head ache. What do we do? Please help?

What do we do.

A friend of mine has a kid that goes to a catholic school (her other kid choose to attend a public school) and in one of his classes they teach about evolution but he complains about being confused because also they teach about Adam and Eve. This is one of the reason her other son decided to go to a public school saying their teachings are crazy and unbelievable.

I went to a public school and they taught me about evolution as well. I am atheist and I believe the story about Adam and Eve is false just like everything else religious but that is besides the point. Why do they not teach Adam and Eve in schools if it is a "fact"?

I was driving my 2011 Nisan Altima at 11:00 at night. I was driving 100 km/hr and to my right two vehicles where pulled over with their hazard lights on. This common where I live so I kept driving. Out of no where I saw the carcass of the dead deer and tried to swerve to avoid it but I wasn't fast enough (and panicked) and the right side of my car ran over the center of the deer. I kept driving eager to get home to see the damage. Using a flashlight there doesn't seem to be any damage to the car, just fur stuck on by blood and blood splattered paint. The smell made me sick.

Even though I didn't kill the deer I feel like me keeping on driving wasn't what I should have done. I didn't do anything wrong right, since the deer was already dead? Also, even though I can't see any damage to the car on the outside, what should I look for (or feel) while I drive it?

I have had this lump for about 6 months. It started at about the size of a nickel then started going away. Then it started to grow again and is now about the size of a loony and very painful. Also, in the last week the skin in that area has started to peel. I don't shave. I also don't touch it (except when I shower). I have had the same sexual partner for six straight years. There is no heat to it.

I plan on going to the walk in clinic tomorrow but I really don't want to since you never know which doctor you get and it's embarrassing, but I will go if I have to. But if anyone has any ideas to what this is and if I can treat it myself, that would be great.

My mother in law's dog's collar was super tight. Her first excuse was the dog grew. The dog is 6 years old, she stopped growing over 5 years or so ago. You can't even fit one finger under the collar.

I loosened it without my mother in law knowing but a few days later it was tight again. I asked her about it again and she said that the dog pulls. I told her the two finger rule and also I introduced her to the heel command. Old dogs can learn new tricks and the dog picked up the heel command fast (with a looser collar) but my mother in law said it was a boring way to walk a dog. So I bought her a gentle leader, and she said that muzzling a dog was cruel. (It isn't a muzzle). The collar went back to being tight so I called the spca and explained the whole thing to them. They even tried to explain the same thing as I did but after many warnings and one unlucky hot day when the water bowl was empty they took the dog away.

My mother in law now refuses to talk to me and her son. Now my husband is upset with me for interfering. I don't know if I did the right thing or not. The dog didn't look like she was in pain or uncomfortable but I still felt bad for the dog. Mostly I just wanted to scare my mother in law, but it must have been that bad that the spca would continue to bother her about it right? Did I do the right thing?

The title says it all. I have a chip addiction. It's no joke. I do all the grocery shopping in my family, and I walk by the junk food isle every time. It may sound odd but it's like being addicited to cigarettes. You see one and got to have one. You see the bags, you got to buy it.I have tried just walking past the isle but litterally fail every time.

I am also a midnight snacker. I eat the chips at night where no one can see me. It's an embarrasment. I am 220 pounds. I eat totally healthy during the day and then the urge hits me to eat that bag of chips. I eat at least 2 bags a week. After the bag is empty I feel totally guilty, but then the next shopping trip comes (I shop once a week) and two more bags go into the cart.

I seriously need some help. Because of my weight I'm embarrased to talk to anyone who can see me. My husband tries to help. He refuses to buy me any when he goes out but it actually creates fights. We argue every time I ask him for a bag and it's actually ruining our relationship. Please help before this gets even more out of hand.