Where is my happy? And how do I get it? Long, but need advice.?

I am a stay at home mom who also taking college through a distant learning program.

Right now, me and my boyfriend of six years have been living with his mother. We also have three kids. Dar (my boyfriend's mom (fake name)) has two dogs and a cat. Throughout the day my boyfriend (Ron, fake name) and Dar go to work while I stay home and watch the animals and my kids and attempt to do my own schooling, plus chores, feeding the kids, walking the dogs, grooming the dogs, making sure the kids occupied, grocery shopping, making sure dinner is cooked before everyone gets home from work and then doing those dishes.

I feel like I do EVERYTHING around here. Recently, Dar allowed a friend of her's (Pat) to move in. He too has a dog...................

So now in a small one story four bedroom house, there is four adults, three kids, three dogs, and a cat. The house is hectic.

The problem, I am sick of making everyone else happy, but me. When Dar comes home she doesn't say thank you for doing the dishes or mopping the floors. She b!tch3s that a spoon is on the table, or that the garbage is full or one of the kids shoes were not put on the shoe rack.

When Ron gets home, he can't tolerate our kids. They get hyper after dinner and he starts yelling at them for playing, okay, maybe not yelling but annoyed and makes them stop and when they don't listen he sends them to time out... I usually get them out and take them into a room to play until I am interrupted by the washing machine.

Pat goes to school, like he actually goes to the college building and relies on Dar or Ron for a ride in and out of the city every morning and every night. This puts me out since I rely on Ron being home so I can leave the kids to him after dinner and I can do my own schooling online. But apparently, Pat is more important. I once told Ron that he could not drive Pat and Pat threw a hissy fit and Ron took him anyway and I lost three hours of schooling, which is a big deal.

I have sat down and told everyone my problem and asked that they help me out and to understand where I am coming from. They all said that they agreed to be more lenient but things have not changed.

And for those who are wondering why we have not moved out, is because my boyfriend does not make enough to support all five of us. Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate that Dar opened her house to us, and she knows it, even though we pay her rent and buy her groceries, but my stress is bad. I cry every night.

Why can't they do their own laundry? Why can't they vacuum the floors? Why do I have to be scolded when I don't do it. At first I was happy to make everyone happy, and I did these things out of the goodness of my heart, but now it is expected of me. There is no daycare here, and my oldest daughter just started kindergarten so now I have the new task of making her lunch, getting the kids dressed for morning and walking them all to the school. Then have to prepare the two youngest to go pick up their sister from school.

I am just tired. I am so exhausted. I have lost all my friends because I had to stay home with my kids and cook dinner instead of accepting their invitations to the bar, or the mall, or a concert. My own mother can't stand the noise of my house so if I want to see her, I have to go there but I can't because I have to make sure everything is in tip top shape at home. Ron goes out with his friends ALL the time and even makes new ones at his job. And when I ask him to not go he whines that he has had a long day and needs to "chill". We have fights over this, and other things, but I give up and he goes on his way. I have tried making friends with the mothers at my daughters school but they never offer their phone numbers to me and never call me even though I have given them my number. (One did call and asked if I could babysit, stupid me I said yes and after that day I have not heard from her).

But anyway, since my talk with the household did not seem to work, what else do I do? How do I get my family to understand that I too have school to do, and work very hard during the day they have nothing nice to say about it. What do I do?