Ex wife wants to get back together.... Please someone talk me out of this?

It's not necessarily too late, but it certainly would take a lot of work to forge a good marriage at this point. She would really need to go to battle with her demons, which would mean a serious course of individual therapy on her part. Then, after that, if she was able to communicate clearly to you how she has changed and why, and give you good reasons why it would be good for you, for your kids, and for her long term to be back together, then you could take the next step and enter couples therapy with a goal of trying to figure out if it would be feasible. All this is going to take time, and that should be time you invest *before* deciding for sure if you really both want to remarry.

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I've been in your shoes before. My first wife did the same although we only separated when she ran off with her lover. She came back after a short time begging to try again. I think she genuinely believed what she was saying but the problem is that once someone does something then that line is easily crossed again. As soon as things got a little hard it was easier for her to cross that line and do the same thing all over again. The only reason to take her back would be because then you can tell yourself in the end that you at least tried. My experience though says that you would be better off saying no to her and that you need to stop being the one she feels she can always come to when things get bad. She made a choice and now she has to live with it and move on so you can completely move on.

Granted that you are the only one who really knows how things are between the two of you, I'd still suggest you don't get back with her: she cheated on you, she left you for another man, what makes you think she would not do it again? There are lines that should never be crossed because once they are crossed that limit disappears for good. How can you trust again someone who cheated on you, hurt you and left you for someone else? I couldn't. It is not a matter of forgiving, it is a matter of trust, and trust cannot be restored once it has been broken. Your family will never be the same again, it will never be back together because her cheating will come up every time you will have a serious argument, the old book will be opened again and in the end you'll get hurt once again. Life is too short to be wasted with someone who stabbed you in the back, you deserve better. All the best!

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Do a simple search, and you're bound to find a plethora of information, with a whole host of different opinions, sometimes seemingly off opposing viewpoints. To focus in on something that's going to help you, the first thing you think about is establishing some common courtesy.

First off, NEVER play mind games with people. This will only get people hurt and will probably end up worsening the situation. I only mention this because naturally people are ruled by their emotions rather than thinking their actions through thoroughly. Think the situation through before doing things based on your emotions. Remember, even if you do manage to get people to do what you want, this amounts to manipulation, and however good you feel now, I guarantee it won't last very long.

Please read what you wrote. If that doesn't talk you out of it...

First chance she got, she cheated on you with someone who was also married.

You read between the lines right. The douche probably went back to his wife. Can't begin to comment on whether he's still around your ex as well - although she did accept those conditions before. And unless one of them quits their job, they're still going to be around each other. A guy like that will always be lurking around the edges.

She misses "what you brought to the table" more than actually misses you. She made her choice, it didn't work out, and that's just too damn bad! She deserves to be miserable, and she's just gonna have to grow up and get over it.

On what planet will you ever trust her again? What about the next new thing that comes along?

You pretty much are the innocent victim here, you didn't cheat, abuse her, or drink. So you got a little sloppy - sloppy can be fixed. She didn't even try! And now she wants you to fix her bad decisions? Be serious!

Listen to your head. I suspect even your heart is more about your family than it is about her.

Don't do it, dude!

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Ex wife wants to get back together.... Please someone talk me out of this?

We were married for 15 yrs. We have two awesome kids. We are both great parents, very involved. She re entered the workforce and fell head over heals for a married co-worker. She had an affair. She wanted me out so bad and him in so fast she did not even hire a lawyer for the divorce. This...

If what you're saying is true, she might have realized that the grass wasn't greener on the other side. And for her to stray from your marriage like that means she never respected you or your opinion to try and work out a marriage which is a huge commitment of love and attachment (supposedly). You want to make things work it seems but every one is different. From my experience, once a trust a bad things happend, it's hard to erase. Why in the first place did she or any party in the relationship allow it to get that bad? There has to be a reason. Sometimes not a good reason but still a reason. Same way some people do in and out or on and off relationships. I don't get that. They are just disrespecting the other party and showing indicisiveness and immaturity. Show's you can't trust them with what they say. I read somewhere that relationships are like glass, once it's broken, it gets broken into a million pieaces and it's hard to put it back together.

I suggest just moving on. It's like when someone breaks up, that means the relationship wasn't working, you two weren't compatible for some reason (mis match ideals, goals, values, etc.), otherwise the relationship would still be intact. It's like a death but then it's alson NOT like a death in a sense that they are really not dead , just you can't be together. Now friends, you can try, but from my experience, that's stupid because being friends is awkward. Sorry she did this to you and good luck with everything. Find your happiness in my opinion. It also seems like you've already moved on. You said that you didn't need her to validate you.

On the other hand, I did the same thing as you last week. I dated someone I barely knew from Jan of this year to May... then I started to miss what we had and call him last week after 5 months apart. It wasn't a mistake in my opinion, because now I know, but now I feel that the healthy thing for me is to move on because why would a relationship break up if it was working? And as I've read other's comments, sure people make mistakes, but they don't have to break up for it like they said. Breaking up is a permanent situation. It tells you that when things get tough, they won't have your back or they won't be around.

Just food for thought. Do what you think is right. It won't be wrong because you are doing what you think is best for you. Don't even feel guilty about it because she is an adult and has to live with the consiquences of her actions too, not just you.

Ok, so you get back together. She might even be the perfect wife, either to make up for her wrongs or just to create an illusion of her own happiness. Either way, one day, she gets a call from this flame of hers; he wants her back - badly. Do you think she will tell him never to contact her again? I don't think so. I think she'd remember the flirtatious and exciting times with him, blush and wanna throw herself right back into it. And even if she did tell him to get lost, it would still play on her mind, especially if you guys had a disagreement or a not so perfect sex life.

Trust me - you will never look at her the same way again. I love the father of my children dearly, but he will never be what he once was, I will never trust him or devote myself to him like I used to.

Oh an by the way, don't let her play you like this, she is doing to you what the (ex)boyfriend is doing to her, calling you at her convenience as if you're a dog, no intention to offend.

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They might realize they need you and come crawling back!

If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.