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If someone implied you had a problem with drugs over the phone, how would you respond (while in denial)?
I have a relative addicted to drugs who acts like they hate me for trying to bring to their attention that their behavior changes drastically while under the influence. I only said a few short words out of concern now they won't even speak to me. Everyone in the family is concerned and have mentioned it to atleast one other family member that they've noticed this particular person most likely has a problem with drugs. I noticed they've even pushed drugs on others during family events. What saddens me is they seem completely unaware of how they actually behave when on these drugs and are extremely defensive. I worry about their well being because it seems worse every time I see them, which is for a short period every couple of yrs.
I don't know what I can do to help.
Yeah but HOW would YOU RESPOOOOOOOOND IF a family member noticed you were ruining other peoples cars, trying to push THEIR prescription drugs on you and other family members?
THAAAAAAAANK YOU, finally some wonderful responses :-)
3 Answers
- 8 years agoFavorite Answer
Your concern is really wonderful, but there isn't a lot you can do for someone who is an addict and in denial. They are their own person, and will only get help when they are ready. It's good that you said something, even if they shut down. Maybe if they hear it enough times from different people, they will make a change. Keep in mind that addicts (alcohol, drugs, etc) generally have some major underlying issues such as childhood abuse, neglect, chronic pain. Something caused them to turn to durgs to numb their pain. So, just trying to take away drugs isn't really adressing their core issue....even though drugs are terrible for you. Thapis is why addiction is such a difficult thing to treat, the person has to be prepared to face their fears/past to get healthy. Therapy is pretty important in the process. People mention rehab often, but rehab centers aren't regulated and vary widely in their success rates.
Good luck!
- Anonymous8 years ago
You can't help someone who won't help them self. Sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they will admit they have a problem or accept any help from others. You cannot force this person to change, but you can lay down rules while they are in your presence. You and the other family members can insist that there be no drug use at family events. If this person behaves badly, ask them to leave. You may not be able to stop the drug use, but you can insist that they behave in a reasonable manner. Instead of insisting that he stop using drugs, you can insist that he have certain standards of behavior while in your presence. I've known many drug addicts in my life. Some of them are awful human beings that I want nothing to do with, and some of them are very respectful and functional people. Drug use is only a real problem when people start hurting loved ones, and ruining their life. When someone loses their job and alienates their family, it has become a problem. Sometimes pointing out the problems can make them see that they really are hurting those around them. Instead of saying "I'm worried about your drug use," say "I really don't appreciate it when you do XYZ. It's really offensive, and it makes me not want to be around you."
- 8 years ago
Mind your business, I know that it is your family but you can't help people that don't want to be helped, they have to live and learn.
