Advice on a situation with my pregnant ex?

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Ok I'm 26 and my ex is 25 we knew each other going on 9 years now and were best friends before we dated. Well she is 7 months pregnant now and we been broke up for 4 months today. We never had problems before she got pregnant but all that changed once she got pregnant and it lead to what she now calls a rash decision to break up with me. Things have not been good between us we always assume the worst and it leads to fights. In the beginning I got scared and freaked out and turned all my focus to the baby to show to her I loved our son. She said I quit caring for her and once I knew this it was to late and we weren't together anymore. I tried to get her back and be there more and she even said she reconsidered us and wanted a family with us but she never gave it a chance for us to be around each other besides the doctor appointments to see how things would go between us. She started hanging with other Guys that she said were her friends and this last one she talks to more the. Anyone else and admitted to me she kissed him and doesn't know if she likes him or not and says she still has some feelings for me. She said I pushed her to it because I quit caring again but she told me she wanted space so I backed off completely to let her come to me. She recently said she feels like she is in this alone and doesn't know if me and her are done forever. I told her she has to finally give it a chance for me to be around to prove to her I do care and can be supportive. My question is how can I be more supportive of her if she does give me a chance to be around more. I know me and her are most likely over for good because she has someone else but I still want her to know I care for her as she is still the mother of my child. What is your guys advice on this whole thing and how should I go about things.

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Sounds to me your ex is scared and confused and it sounds to me you need to grab the girl and tell her how you much you mean to her and you are not going anywhere. The very fact that you left when she said so, and to give her space etc tells me you're not fighting for her. Lets say if you were in her shoes, and you felt that your isn't into you that much any more, so you test them and say leave and they're like "Oh...okay. well... bye then" You will be like WTF? You'd expect them to say "NO, you're the mother of my child and I AM NOT letting you go. I love you!" 

We women like to test men. For example, we're like "Porn is a great thing for guys when their misses refuses them sex for the night isn't it?" And the guy is like "Yeah, its pretty handy."

Or, "I think Megan Fox is pretty hot, don't you?" Then man says, "Yeah I do." 

PREPARE FOR WAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Women test men, it's our nature. 

With this dude... I think this is her getting you jealous and by the sounds of it, you are just laying down taking it. And if it were real, from a guys point of view when a man goes with a pregnant women, he is pretty much p*ssing on another man's tree according to my boyfriend. 

She is carrying your baby and she is going to go through the pains of hell to have YOUR baby. You need to step up to the mark, show her how much she means to you. 

She's pregnant. She's going to feel very insecure. Like what I did, I would look down at myself and see a huge bump, stretch marks and I would waddle. Pregnant women need extra loving, care and attention. If it were you, you'd feel the same right? 

When you go to America, and you see a pregnant women and ask how far gone she is, the man would say "We're 7 months gone." And that is lovely, because they're in it together. 

You need to land at her door step and really show her how much she means to you. Even cry in front of her etc And tell her how BEAUTIFUL she is. 

You sound like a cool guy, and my boyfriend was the same until I told him what I told you because I felt the same way as your girlfriend. 

Females are emotional creatures, especially when pregnant. 

Give her breakfast in bed, foot massages (my feet killed when pregnant) back massages and movie with some treats. Even leave a little surprise like a ring or necklace in her makeup bag or something.

My boyfriend has done this, and I never felt more cherished and loved than I do now :)


Hope this helps and good luck!


PS If the guy is real, tell him to back off.

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on a scale from 1-10 how mad is she? then take that number and multiply it by 10, and thats how many pounds of chocolate to buy her.

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