Have you ever been afraid of loosing what you have?

Yes I'm in relationship right now and if I'd loose him I'd be terrified.cant imagine living without him,you are just "CRAZY IN LOVE" it's good feeling enjoy it

I have lost literally everything several times in my life. Robbed like they hosed the house down clean and a final sweep as they walked out the door. Lost a partner too. Sounds careless. You don't get over it, but you do find that, 7 or so years down the road, the cupboards are , again, all full and the dressers are full and the closets are full and there are boxes in the attic. Maybe not the same.. but still full.

omg yes, all the time im scared of loosing him, I mean hes the most amazing, sweetest, most caring, smartest mature funniest sexiest guy ever. after 4 years im stil attracted to him, I still laugh I still fall in love every time I see him, I still get butterflies, and when im mad, I cant look at him or else I smile because im so in love with him. if I ever lost him, I dnt know what iw ould do. I broke up with him twice because I felt like I was gonna loose him, and I just wanted him happy, but he fought for me, and break up lasted 2 minutes. lol. but he tells me all the time that he wont leave me

like today we spent the day together, laughing, and he drove me home, saw our 2 kids, than he left, an hour later he called and said he missed me already, and that he loved me, he started saying sweet things, and saying "dnt be dumb,i love u, I want to be with u forever, ur just mine im just urs, and we will always be together, and that I should never worry about loosing him because I make him happy and hes so in love

hearing that made me happy, made me feel that he really doesn't want to loose our relationship either!

but its normal, if u really love that person more than anything of course u want it to last and u dnt wanna loose it, if u dnt feel that way than maybe ur heart isn't fully there

I really try not to allow fear to get me feeling deflated about my relationships.

BUT! I totally understand what you mean.

When I was younger? Good Lord, YES.

In fact, some of that fear caused me to even SABOTAGE my relationships.

Naturally, people don't want to get hurt. Hence.....where the fear comes from.

I'd been hurt before and when that happens, more imparticular----repeatedly----we tend to make vows.

"Nobody will ever hurt me again in that way."

Thus...the fear dictates your behavior. Things are going TOO good and now it's getting nerve racking because things have NEVER been this "good".......SO......what's the natural way of a person whose made an unhealthy vow? The begin to PUSH! They'll PUSH those away who care because THEY want to be in control over their OWN hurt. It's that...."I'll be damned if I'm going to let this person hurt me."

Please honey.....don't allow this "fear" to control or dictate your behavior and treatment toward those you love.

In my late teens and early twenties I probably hurt more people than anyone hurt me.

Now?

Well......I've basically got it figured out. Not saying I'm not still learning or anything, but I've come to yhe conclusion that there is literally NOTHING in this world that I have under my own control EXCEPT for: MYSELF.

I'm quite sure that people around here who frequent this site are probably well versed in my little speech about this, but I always take the opportunity to tell others about it......not just for the questioner, but myself also.

The ONLY things in this world that you are CERTAIN of being able to control are:

Your THOUGHTS (Don't dwell on the LOOSING but find MORE appreciation for the HAVING)

Your FEELINGS (Feeling tend to MUDDLE the reality of a situation, STICK to the FACTS)

Your EMOTIONS (When you have the FACTS first you will be able to MORE APPROPRIATELY deal with and UNDERSTAND the feelings and emotions. Emotions can be as misleading as feelings and are also easy to manipulate OTHERS with; and have OTHERS try to manipulate YOU by playing on the magnitude of 'emotions')

And finally

Your BEHAVIOR. (need I even explain?)

ANYTHING and just about everything outside of those four things is basically OUT OF your REALM of control.

NO amount of worrying about and dwelling over things OUTSIDE of your own control is going to hinder the process.

I call worrying about and dwelling over things OUTSIDE of my own control the BIGGEST waste of TIME and probably one of the TOP reasons for many health conditions. Seriously.

If a person REALLY wanted to fv(k out on you and had it in their mind to do so, NO AMOUNT of WORRYING about it is going to KEEP them from doing what 'they' want to do. Quite actually......it'd quicken the process.

SO! BEST advice I can give you right now?

DON'T WORRY about things that are OUTSIDE of your CONTROL.

ENJOY your life! And have FUN with the people you LOVE to be around.

Don't be all serious all the time....that's NOT fun.

And just APPRECIATE what you have and do your BEST to take CARE of what you have.