My friends embarrass me when we're out?

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Ok, I'm 23 and admittedly I have lowish self esteem. My mates and I regularly go to this pub in my local town which has a party on Saturday nights. However just lately, one keeps asking random girls for their number for me. I don't get a say in the matter and most of the time they just are not my type. Also he doesn't seem to understand that I'm more interested in the person than the way they look and possible one nighters. If they are pretty then that is only a bonus. Tonight he also asked 2 girls which try to sell shots for their number and I just felt so embarrassed. The only girls I talk confidently to are ones I've known for years. I'm useless at talking to complete strangers.

My question is, is it normal to be embarrassed in a situation like this and also is there any recommendations you could give me on how to approach girls more confidently? 

Thanks

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pull your mate to one side and say, look i know you are thinking of me but please stop doing that you are showing me up, when I need your help I will ask for it

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This would be embarrassing for most people. As your friends are forcing these girls on you, your confidence is being knocked! If your friends left you to it, I bet you'd do great! Your clearly looking for a meaningful relationship and that's why you aren't interested in a lot of the girls you meet in bars. Perhaps, one of the girls you have known for years and can talk confidently with, you could get to know better. Maybe there's a chance with one of them. Tell your friends to back off and I'm sure you'll become more confident. If you did want to approach a girl in the pub, you could then do it on your terms and say what you want rather that have your friends embarrass you! Good luck!

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