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What was going on with her and what should I do?
I was very close to her family and always looking out for them.
She flirted with me often but I just took it as light banter. Her father grew ill and passed away which She took pretty badly. The pain she felt I guess opened up my true feelings for her. I must of been in serious denial because I never knew until it hit me like a ton of bricks, she was in my thoughts constantly.Six months later I kept trying to hide it but Im not a good liar so I wrote telling her I cared about her and we were all worried for her being locked in her room. I visited the following week and she heard me arrive and came down and smiled at me. Eventually I wrote her and told her how I was feeling as I didnt know which way to turn. She seemed fine with me but we never discussed it but out of the blue she phoned we three weeks later sounding very upset and told me she had no feelings for me and not to comeback, that hurt because her mum was like a mother to me. Her sister told me she was crying a lot screaming down and cussing my name yet I do not understand what I had done. I stayed away and a year later I saw her whilst driving and tried to talk to her but she just didnt give me a chance to talk. I would always send her a birthday card so I let it pass but the following year I sent her a card and a letter saying I hope we could be friends again but if not I understand but heard nothing then 3 weeks later out of the blue the police knock my door and say she has been in absolute tears down the station and saying that I harassed her (our contact was twice in 3 years). I told her family and they went bolistic but not sure what they said to her but I decided to leave it. I still think of her often. ... I have idea what was going on with her and I am still totally confused. What do you think was going on and what should I do?
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- Anonymous8 years ago
Being a girl I could say it means one of 3 things.
1.She Truly has not feelings for you and was just stringing you along like a simple collage girl flaunting herself and as soon as you played along she became incredibly offended. Which hate to say it allot of girls do. We flaunt what we got and put it out there but when men go for it we become infuriated. IM still not even sure why we do that maybe for attention Im not sure.
2. Someone a mutual friend or someone you didn't even know she knew told her something about you or something involving you somehow or she saw something about you, on facebook, it couldn't even been as simple as seeing a post or conversation from another girl. who could been your cousin for all she knows but with feelings for you she took it as you being a Player or a typical man and decided she had been hurt enough, with everything with her father and such and just let you go. She could have even been angry with you about it which is what it sounds like. and the more you tried to contact her the more she saw it as you being an *** hole. don't ask me why but this is how we see things honestly ha ha.
#. lastly she could just be the complete opposite of what you thought she was since you two were just friends it seems like you never really knew her in a dating sense. Theres a big difference between a friend and a lover she could have been your Friend and as soon as she felt something for you the game changed entirely. Making her likely passive aggressive in some ways, and probably jealous or like in the first reason I gave. Or she could just be a crazy *****. who knows.
But honestly it sounds more of mixture of the first two with everything that happened and you two both being so close. It seems maybe things just got confused and jumbled up.
As corny as it sounds if you think about this girl this much you need to go to her now!
and not like some dumb romantic comedy either i mean genuinely go to her ask what you did so wrong and that you really care for her. possibly love herrrrr?? Enough with the games and cards. worst she can do is give you a reason why once and for all what happened or tell you to leave. no harm done. throw away your pride and just risk it all.
Source(s): I am a Female - 8 years ago
she might have mental issues. most likely she is depressed. perhaps it was not a good idea to tell her about your feelings for her right after her father died as she might have been feeling vulnerable. either way, she definitely wants you to leave her alone from now on.
