My husband died about two years ago?

I am not sure who you are talking about (((DM))). If it is about sexy Harry, it can only do good for you.

Good luck !

First of all - forget about thinking that this man is being considerate & wanting to '''help ''' you.

I can pretty much guarantee that what he is thinking is something along the lines of :-

****YIPPEE !!!!! I get to have more sex when I want , without getting knocked back !!!!**** While secretly grinning from ear to ear. * And I am not going to have to put in any effort **

Even though you think that you will be able to control your emotions - it is very hard to do so when you are still feeling vulnerable & someone is paying you some attention.

Step away from this scenario & imagine if the boot were on the other foot .Your friend was the one who lost her husband & it was your husband making this offer to her . Some time passes & you found out about what was going on . Think about how you would feel.

AS someone else suggested get on to some of the on-line ''dating'' sites & find someone there .

There are hundreds of these sites with hundreds of men just looking for a sexual NSA ( no strings attached) partner.

Should you sign up for any of these sites - make sure that beforehand you have set up a separate email account to that which you now use . When setting up the account use a pseudonym for it & keep that one for contact with anyone you may connect with. NEVER give out a land line (fixed phone line) number. ALWAYS use your cell .

Arrange for your first meeting with any new contact to happen in a public place ( cafe, bar) & also let someone know that you are meeting up with an unknown person & where. You could have that person ring you say after about 15/20 mins & if the ''date '' is going well, you can say to your friend on the phone " I will have to catch up with you later."

If not going well - you can tell the """ date "" that your friends needs you urgently.

Alternatively - arrange a lunch meeting where you will only have limited time. If things go well - you can then arrange another meeting.

You have no right to use your best friends' husband. He is your best friends' husband, not your husband. He is not your anything. Don't do it. There is no such thing as a secret. You don't think she will find out? She will.

Be honest with yourself. You don't need to be with him. You can find someone else by asking someone you know to set you up on a blind date or going to a dating website. Just because you don't want to do it that way still does not give you the right to take the easy way out. Who is this easy for? You lost your husband and I am sorry for that, so you are going to mess up another marriage and your best friend will end up losing her husband also, except it won't be from death. It will be from another female who called herself her friend who thought she could just take what ever she wanted.

If you think I am being rude then you are right because what you are thinking of is so terribly selfish. Nothing good will ever come out of a situation like that and don't even kid yourself into thinking it is temorary until you get on your feet. You will ruin that marriage and if it doesn't work out between you and him then you will just keep moving on taking whatever you think you need without any thought of hurting other people.

I have a hard time believing this is a real question cuz it is so over the top terrible and yes, I have heard of this one time before about 15 years ago from the mother of a friend of mine whose husband died and the husband of a good friend of hers offered to sleep with her. Wow, really really sad.

I wouldn't do it. There's a high chance you /could/ develop feelings and if she ever did find out, there goes that friendship and probably their marriage. Personally, and this is coming from a wife of a cuckold man, I'd never sleep with a married man. I just don't see it as fair to the wife at all. Find someone new from online websites. That's what I use.

Honey, I don't feel this would be a good idea. These folks are your friends. IF the wife found out, it would break her heart. Could you do this against her?! You'd do nothing but jeoprodize a good friendship. There are plenty of men available, find one who is single, unattached & you know you won't be hurting anyone else. do unto others as you would have them do unto you. When we do things rite, they'll then end up turning out rite. Think about this in all seriousness...best to you, honey, the best is yet to come...:)

Yeah, it's purely like rehab. I'm sure HE sees it like that, and I'm sure his WIFE, your BEST FRIEND (ha), will see it like that. It's so nice of him to offer to get you back into sex and all. Esp. since it's so easy to forget how it's done. Nah, I don't see anyone having a problem with this. You should go right on ahead. And when you get caught and your friend kills you in your sleep, I just hope you're lying next to her husband at the time to save her an extra trip. Have fun!!

TROLL! If you have been married you should already know the answer to this question..would of you wanted your deceased husband to be screwing another lady before he past away? If this is real I am sure you are making your husband Proud of you! I think your are trolling or a true troll.

Sounds like a wonderful plan, I can see no potential problems like you breaking up this couple, or developing feeling for the man down the line. No, just go full bore ahead.

That's really messed up and wrong in so many ways.

If you want to experiment go on a date with someone other than your friends husbands.

NO there are plenty of men willing to help you out without you sleeping with your best friends husband.

That would be a very cruel thing to do.

How sad that the thoughts are in your head. To even make something like this up is kind of sick.