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Boyfriend was out all night and didn't call?

Friday evening, he went to grab some chips out of the pantry and I stopped him and said "no, those are for when we're drinking tomorrow night."

He said "huh? where are you going tomorrow night?" and I said "nowhere--you'll be here, won't you? We're drinking, aren't we?"

And he said "oh....yeah."

Yesterday morning he tells me he's going out on his friend's boat. That's fine. He did say that it would be a lot of fun, and that they were going to be docking at different bars, and invited me to come. I declined (not my thing).

I got one text from him yesterday at about 5:45pm saying that his phone battery was about to die and he'd send me pictures later.

I tried calling 5 times between 6pm and 10pm and he didn't answer. Also, his phone rang 6 times every time I called; if it's dead it always goes straight to voicemail.

I texted him about a dozen times. I got what I assume is a drunk text around 8:45 with just some random letters, so his phone obviously wasn't dead.

He NEVER came home. In fact, it's 1:15pm the next day, he's been gone over 24 hours now.

He didn't call me 'til 11am today and I was too upset to answer.

We don't live together, but he spends about 6 nights a week here and always lets me know when he's staying somewhere else (his house, a friend's, etc)

I texted him saying I was very upset and feel disrespected and don't want to talk to him right now and turned off my phone and left it in the car.

Am I over reacting?

Is this normal?

He's 34, I'm 28. We've been together nearly 2 years.

Update:

If I go out drinking, he flips if I don't answer my phone, or if I'm gone past about 10pm.

Also, there are other things I could have done last night if I wasn't up waiting on him to come home. One of my friends was having people over to drink wine and sit in the hot tub, and I would have gladly done that if I would have known I'd be sitting home alone all night.

Update 2:

Jack, that is fine, but he should have called and told me he wasn't coming home. I was waking up every 15-30 minutes checking my phone, or going into the living room to see if he'd come home and passed out on the couch. I didn't know if he was alive or dead.

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  • 8 years ago
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    I don't think you are overreacting.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    8 years ago

    Your reaction was fine. Let him apologize for what he did and give yourself some time to cool off. He was wrong by lying, not answering your calls/texts, just talk to him and let him know how you feel and he should apologize.

  • 8 years ago

    He just wanted to go out and get wasted with his mates....

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