Should I let my 19 year old daughter share a bed with her boyfriend?

This is a difficult one. A lot depends on the social environment, religious and cultural background... In some cultures it is very permissible (even expected) for kids over the legal age to engage in sex in their parents home, in other cultures it is an absolute deal-breaker.

Sounds like you have done everything right as far as sex education etc goes. Perhaps the indicator here would be, what you feel comfortable with? It's one thing to know that they're doing it in their dorm rooms, another thing to know that they're having sex under your roof, while you're there... Whatever you decide, bear in mind it's also ok to have an unofficial arrangement eg have an agreement with your daughter to respect your space while you're there but that you won't ask questions about what goes on when you're not there... That being said, also give some thought as what your position would be if she is eg engaged or married because it's also ok to have staggered rules as her relationship gets more serious or formalised... Hope this helps... Good luck.

First of all, it's nice that you have an open relationship with your daughter where she feels comfortable discussing all of these things with you, but with all due respect, your logic seems kind of backwards to me. She's already sexually active with her boyfriend, and you're worried about them sharing a bed? Shouldn't it be a parent being worried about them sharing a bed because they may become sexually active?

In any case, as long as she and her boyfriend are paying for the bed and for the birth control, I don't think you need to worry about it. They're adults, so anything they choose is (a) their choice, (b) their responsibility, and (c) their expense.

When you choose a best answer, I'd be really curious to know why you are worried about them sleeping together when they've already had sex.

I think it's alright. They're probably already sexually active, considering she's on the pill. The fact they're being safe by using protection and that they're only having sex with each other is very good. I think the two of them really value their relationship together and probably have big plans with each other for the future (marriage, children, etc.) and they're both serious about their education. Sounds like two good kids, I think they're very responsible and it'd be ok to let them share a bed, as they probably already have before.

If both have good relationship, as a responsible dad, why don't you arrange the marriage for both of them. Then there is no need to worry about. Let them get married first. Let them lead a decent life as man and wife. This is the proper procedure which a decent father could do to his daughter.

can you not advice your daughter to study and graduate atleast. Let her get married after few years. Strictly speaking, she can share the bed with her bf only after the wedding. Think before you act.

It's hard to let them grow up and do ALL the adult things in life without at least wondering if you should do or say anything to discourage their behaviour.

But, you said it yourself,He seems a good guy and your daughter obviously loves him.

I think your thinking is sound.

In your home, they should respect your wishes. Outside of the home, they may do as they please since they are over 18. They sound very responsible so I can see why you are changing your views on the subject. I think you should allow it, but it is up to you. :)

i got married at 19 and im 2o now im sure from a mothers point she dont want her daughter doing things and get pregnant before married but either way they are going to do it!!! but be protected becasue you taught her well

She's 19 you don't decide weather or not she can share a bed with her boyfriend.

If it's okay with his parents then I think that's a good sign... but once you open the door to allowing it, you can't close it again

Yes, this is okay. She's 19 years old, time to let her be a big girl ;)