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If you were dealing with a bad community situation, when would you call it quits?

Several years ago, I moved into a neighborhood in a transitional community. I thought I knew this area well, and, while I knew there were certain problems, I did not think they were all that bad, and figured they would improve. The problem is that things are getting worse and worse, not by the year, or month or week, but by the day.

The homes in my section of the community are semi-historical, and are relatively small and inexpensive for the greater metro area. At another stage in the evolution of the community (which I think is now going to be at least several years down the line) these houses would be considered quaint and interesting, and would attract a gentrification trend. However over the last decade or two, they have just attracted dumb poor people who have no job options, so just end up starting really crappy businesses, which they run out of their properties. This is against bylaw, and causes all sorts of issues. And, as house prices, and taxes, rise, more and more people are moving in just to exploit the situation, and bank a property, with no concern for the people around them.

There are still many decent people living in the street, and nearby streets, but they are slowly getting pushed out. I have been fighting this trend of bylaw-breaking, and have gotten to be known in the area. Over the last couple of years several things have happened that make me wonder if I am being targeted for retaliation. First, one of my cats was injured. At the time I thought he was clipped by a car, but I am now thinking he was kicked. Roughly a year later, he was let out and came back smelling of gas, as if he had been doused. Over the last three months my property -- and only mine -- has been egged twice. The last time was today -- the back of my car was covered in egg.

A few things to note here. First, I did not set out looking for trouble. When I moved in things were not all that bad, but the people who lived in the house before me were pushovers, and the trouble-making neighbors who lived around or near me thought they could push it with me, because I was single, and rarely around at first. As a result, I had issues with people trespassing, blocking my driveway, and on and on. Also, there are a few properties where the residents are colluding and encouraging people to come in and break bylaw. It is as if they are trying to drive certain people out of the area with some big plan in the works.

I have been in frequent communication with the city (city Councillor, bylaw department, etc.) and the police, and nothing seems to work. I even once called the police about someone visiting me being harassed, and was told to suck it up or move away. So, here is my question -- a kind of survey:

At what point would you throw in the towel?

I have a habit of standing my ground, and fighting until the bitter end, and, while I usually beat the other party, I always walk away feeling drained and depressed, which makes it not so much a win, unless you consider a kamikaze pilot to "have won".

What would you suggest i do? Move on? Kick the fight up a few notches? Play dirty?

I am at my wits end, and feel like I have been fighting this forever.

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  • 8 years ago
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    When people who run the town do not do their jobs, go higher up the food chain. You may have to see the State Attorney General or your local State Representative and if that fails go to the local TV news station and report what is happening.

    How to get others involved? Go to legitimate businesses and let them know that these businesses are NOT paying commercial property taxes because they are in a residential neighborhood while THEY pay higher taxes. Oh, like I said, money talks. When they realize "business" owners are getting tax breaks do to their illegal location, then the zoning would have to be changed. In which case, up goes the value of your house and then you can sell out and move. Or if the towns people vote it down, then the businesses leaveT

    It sounds like you moved to a crooked town where the officials are being paid off by the local store owners to allow them to continue to break the law. I say this because the only thing that talks louder than the law is the almighty freaking dollar.

    I am a fighter and have been known to take on battles, sometimes based on principal. I just won, as a defendant, a 6 year law suit. My elderly relatives had a bully neighbor try to steal some of their waterfront property thinking he could pull the wool over their eyes. I stepped in and took over because I saw he was trying to manipulate and scare them. So, I fought and fought for what seemed like years on end. It was a bitter sweet battle because we "won" our own land and paid tens of thousands in lawyers fees.

    While that law suit was being dragged on, our family was bullied to no end. You would not believe what this guy tried to do to us and our reputation (beach front family home since 1944). I gave the guy enough rope to hang himself and he is now the clown idiot and everyone knows it because he spewed his arrogance and ignorance all those years and made many enemies.

    I am the fighting type, so I would stay and fight my way up to the top dog and get people to back me up. Record things happening, record no help from the police and report 'em all. THINK THINK THINK.

  • 8 years ago

    Its natural girl because in your mind you may think people don't like you but in natural fact there are people who cares and as time goes on you would get to know those who agree with you, so just be yourself as time goes on...........

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