Divorcing in the Army?

Feel so sorry for you. Can the place you are studying help at all? If you think there is no saving your relationship then I would urge you to speak to your school/ bank about lending money to rent a place so you can get back on your feet. I'm not sure if this is an option but you will need to work. If you are dependent on your husband and he knows this, he might feel like he will get away with cheating. One thing I have always promised myself is to never be dependent on a man!

I would say if he is cheating while deployed and it wasn't anything other then just sex by that I mean no ongoing relationship just getting rid of that need(guys do need it) so he could be more focused then forgive him. Combat is a very stressful strange place to be and if your so horny it's breaking your focus or if it was a slip in comfort/judgement he had seen something or one traumatic then forgive him. Otherwise get a job, pack up your stuff if you are in army accom and as you drive away file for divorce.

Hey Melissa - I am very sorry for your situation. If you are going to leave him then you have to have somewhere to go. I work at Focus on the Family also located in Colorado Springs and we have licensed staff counselors who can talk to you (at no cost) about your options. Give them a call at 800-A-Family. Blessings!

were things complicated when he cheated? maybe it just happened due to circumstances. have u cheated , will you if things were bad? what about when theyre good? if he cheats when hes home get rid of him, however if he cheats when hes away n has no contact with his fling id say forgive him n understand the situation . there was times before i married i cheated on my husband but i knew he didnt deserve it n i stopped .