something is wrong with my son?

If by whipping him you mean literally with a whip, then you're breaking the law.

What you are describing is punishments, not discipline. Learn the difference between them. Of course he acts worse the nicer you are to him, he doesn't trust you not to punish him. Try, oh I don't know, maybe positive reinforcement when he does something good so he knows what's good and what isn't.

You have not mentioned ANY discipline... what you are describing are punishments, which are never helpful and which make children more aggressive - exactly as you are seeing. While the occasional punishment probably won't do too much long-term damage, a child who is punished regularly is going to feel angry, unloved and resentful. So of course he behaves badly - he's apparently now reached the worst form of anger (passive aggression) - so his emotional tank is on zero.

What he needs is lots of hugs, positive attention, and - depending on his age - some form of real discipline that does NOT include punishment of any kind, but teaches him morals, ethics, and also your expectations. The more you punish him, the worse he will behave (as you are seeing). A child is supposed to be given unconditional love and respect, and gentle guidance - not deprivation and (worst of all) whippings.

And yes, of course he will behave badly at first if you're nice to him - he has totally lost all trust in you. It will take weeks to build up a good relationship after all those punishments.

If he spills something or makes a mess then its HIS responsibility to clean it up. YOU ARE NOT HIS MAID!! I have been working with kids for 15 years. You can try a behavior chart. If he does what he is told and doesn't hurt anyone then he gets a sticker for that day. If he has 3 stickers by the end of the week then he gets a prize. Then you can gradually increase the length of time he is expected to behave. I have also done a ticket system that worked well. The child can accumulate "tickets" by doing something nice or doing what he's told. After he gets to a certain number of tickets he can cash them in for a prize. You can find a link to printable behavior charts here: http://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.com/behavio...

I have also found that natural consequences work best. If he makes a mess then HE cleans it up, if he breaks something then he pays for it with his allowance... Try some of these thing I have found to be very successful in my years of working with children. Don't give up hope and keep trying you will find something that works!

Sounds like he's got used to the attention you give him when you discipline him, do you spend any time with when he's not in trouble? Try rewarding him for good behaviour, and ignoring him for bad.

Ok thank you everybody ever since I started positive reinforcement he is a changed kid. Thank you all for your help you saved my life.

Maybe try therapy. It sounds like he has some issue.

try positive reinforcement instead of negative

he needs to see a psychiatrist.

and so do you.