should you leave a man if he doesnt/ cant get a job he has a degree in?

If he is failing to find work, either there is no work, or he is doing something wrong.

Assuming that there is work, because he is applying, then he must be doing something wrong. People who are assessing him are not ticking the right boxes. After all a degree just enables you to apply for the job, might get you sitting in the interview chair but it will not get you the job.

One thing he must be showing now is that he is keeping his skills up to date, and that he is keeping abreast of developments. Persuade him also to be more pro-active in his job search. You need to stand by him, because your support is vital for his self belief. If he looses that he looses all chance of finding work, but at the same time you both have to be pushing boundaries. Like there is more ways than one of killing a cat - you need not flay it alive - you can always drown it in cream. So think around things and try and work out the best approach together. He may be in a rut and you may need to kick him out of it.

Now a days, a bachelors degree is as good as a high school diploma 20 years ago. About the only thing he can do is flip burgers. Sure, it isn't much, but hey, it pays some of the bills. You might want to encourage him to go back to school and add on some more credits towards another degree and see if it will help. That or go for his masters. Keep in mind the skill area is pretty filled with people and the ones that are worth a tinkers da*n, are already working. No room for an inexperienced education-filled newbie. He might want to stretch his horizons or whatever. Teaching is something he could work with. Finally, you and he are dating. The fact that he can't get a position right now is not a bad thing. If you ditch him now and walk away what happens in 5 years when the field gets blown wide open because of ground activities in California or Alaska? About all you can do is support him. Keep your ears open and if something comes up you think he can do, suggest it. As a friend that is all you can be. Encouragement.

That's kind of pathetic. If you loved him you wouldn't be able to just leave him lol. Give the poor guy some time, or help him out for Pete's sake.

Which is more important? Your feelings for him or the money he could be making if the economy wasn't in the toilet. Your attitude doesn't offer anything positive to the situation.