People coming over but not giving a rough time as to when?

What's the big deal? If they aren't sure when they are coming then just go about your business. Do whatever you planned to do if they weren't coming. If they want to make sure they will catch you home, they will call before they come. In which case you can just tell them whether or not you will be home, and whether or not you will be too busy to stop what you are doing. So when they come to your house, you let them in and then just continue with what you had planned to do. They can talk to you while you clean house, or they can be quiet till your tv show is over, or wait in the living room while you take a package to the neighbor...or whatever. If you are in bed taking a nap, don't answer the door. If they call your cell phone to find out why you are not answering your door even tho your car is in the driveway, tell them to come back when you are finished with your nap.

You have lost control of the situation.

Tell them they MUST narrow down a time because you are going out. If they are not there when expected, then do not stay home and wait for them.

I knew a friend like this once. Whenever she was supposed to stop by, I gave her a time frame. If she had not arrived when expected, I left the house to run errands or go shopping. After a couple of times not being home, she got the hint.

YOU must be creative on how to deal with these rude family members. But, remember, you taught them how to treat you. Now you just have to un train them of their bad habits. It can be done, but like raising children, you must be consistent and true to your convictions or you will be walked all over by them.

It's very disrespectful. I can see how some people wouldn't care if they're more laid-back. I have a type A personality, and it would piss me off to no end if times and dates weren't established for visits.

That's very bothering. My family does the same thing. I now tell them, OK, but I won't be home till this time. Or I have to live at this time.

I hate it! What do they expect us to wait at home all day in the off chance that they do arrive?

Just tell them you're not going to be home, problem solved.