My husband thinks my illness is an excuse?

you have to talk to a professional relationship counsellor, you can look into both sides of the story and talk to both.

you will only solicit sympathetic replies here from people who have are biased by their own misandry or misogyny.

He sounds like an a hole, He doesn't help at all, he could be doing something to help out. Even if it was giving you a little money. he sounds very selfish and honestly you said you loved him because he is the father of your child. Is that the only reason because it's not a very good reason. Anyone can have sex with you and give you a child. If he doesn't treat you with respect and kindness why are you with him?

So, you're the roommate. That's awesome! Marriage counseling would probablty do you two wonders. I'm assuming he was like this before you got married, I'm curious why you tied the knot in the first place? Would have been a lot easier to leave if you hadn't done that. I'm not trying to be inconsiderate but it sounds to me like you knew exactly what you were getting into a few months ago and did it anyway.

Yes he is selfish. Can you hire a cleaning person? He sounds very controlling and immature about things but then I know some people like that. Everything they have is theirs and everything you have together is theirs too. The situation is probably not going to improve so do the best you can and continue to go to school. Tell him how unhappy you are about no help around the house. If he ignores you - you will have two choices and I don't need to tell you what they are.

So he is the boss and own his own house and you at the bottom of your job and had no home!!

He paid for the house and everything related to the house and you do nothing!!

Well you say Its not your house and his is saying your problems aren't his!!! so you two are just alike and perfect for each other!!

You may be married but you have no union!!!

Go to marriage therapy with him. If he won't go with you, go to individual counseling on your own. Your name "Make it or Die Trying" and " I feel like he hates me and I will never measure up to his standards" along with your story all indicate that there are deep issues here that began BEFORE your husband.

It's as if you've been so used to being treated like crap and treating yourself like crap that when you got to know your husband he was the perfect match for you...he also treats you like crap. (And who knows how you treat him in his mind?)

Anyhow, if you work on fixing your own inner issues you will change your whole world...including your interactions with your husband- and your child. Then you can decide what is in your best interest in terms of your future and your child's. Take care.

sigh.......and so why would you be with someone like this for 5 years? Why would you marry someone like this a few months ago?

Sounds like you were wrong to stay with this guy even a year and even wronger to marry him.

if he wants a clean house then he can also take care of the bills completely, his and yours. Thats fair to me. Otherwise he can suck it up and help out.

He sounds like a selfish bully. Glad I'm not living with him.

It does not matter what kind of job he has. If you both work you both clean.