Should I still get married to him?

Your parents have your best interests at heart, but, they're of another era.

My thoughts are that you'd be far happier with someone you love and want then someone who meets a criteria (like having an expensive education).

It sounds to me like this guy has taken on huge responsibilities in his life, and to come through it in one piece is great.

Can you see yourself with him in the future, what do you imagine your life to be without him?

It's gonna be a long hard life if you spend it with someone who isn't right for you, and it's only you who can decide the criteria of 'right for you'.

It sounds a lot like you've decided already, and if I'm honest, it makes me glow inside to think that things like wealth, status, family and vocation all come a hard second to matters of the heart (but if you tell anyone I feel this way there could be trouble, I have a reputation to uphold).

My advice, take a deep breath, and decide to do what's right for you. Good luck.

Follow you heart, if he treats you nice, adores you and makes a decent living,and is a good man, go for it. Moms gives great advice and a lot of times they are right and its times when they are wrong. Let your mom know you have too make your own mistakes, AND you are grown. Did your mom ever think about he could have entered the military to get away from his negative parents and the way he was living, I think your mom is judging him wrong, its not a good idea to drop out of school, but he is doing something, at least he is still in the military, its some benefits come from being in the military, your parents may be coming from a good place within, BUT its your life, not theirs.

Your mother is not the one you will be getting married to, but the very fact that she wants you not only married to a man with a full time job, but an 'ivy league man' . . . ask yourself does she come from such a background herself? Did she send YOU to an ivy league school? Why is it ok for you to reach for the star with an ivy league man, but not him with an educated young woman. Time to think for yourself. Seems she would like the 'title' over the love.

Darling, if the man loves you and is ever faithful to you .. And you feel likewise, go marry him. I do understand the irony.. But you yourself know that this is his situation. And this has never been long lived. So what if he comes from a poor family.. Doesn't mean he's gonna die poor.. Rich people don't die rich as well.. If the only basis of your mom is wealth,then I think no matter how you love your mom don't listen, this time. Sure your mom maybe thinking about what's best for you, but this is your life. You will live with it not hers. It is only up to your decision. Follow your heart so if all else fails, you've got no one to blame but yourself.. You don't wanna live in life with regret do you?

As long as you wait for him to establish his self, you should be ok!!! Your parent will eventually get over it!!