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Overnight stays in a marriage.?
I have been with this woman for nine months now. We are engaged and I have to admit I know her very well. Better than she knows her self so my question is this. Generally speaking, in a marriage, is it okay for a "friend" (in this case who happens to be an X boyfriend) come to stay over for a few days from time to time?
This is one of those things that her and I don't share the same views on. Its a one bedroom house and indeed her house. I know for a fact she would take issue with a friend of mine whom be the opposite gender staying over night. Sorry I have to ask these questions like this but my nature is rather extreme. I take hard lines with all the soft social issues. My believes in this matter are yes a marriage is based on trust, but we are all human and its always best to not borrow trouble when you have none.
7 Answers
- HurricainLv 77 years agoFavorite Answer
I think it is appropriate for you to expect that your wife's old flame would not be permitted to visit "for a few days" and sleep in your house overnight.
- Anonymous7 years ago
STOP LYING TO YOURSELF!!!!!
that would be a start!!!!
You said, "I have to admit I know her very well. Better than she knows her self"
NO, YOU DON'T!!!!
you Didn't know she would bring her EX over for sex while she is with you!!!!
You didn't know she cares more about her EX BF than you!!! That is why she would rather upset you than him!!!
I guess you do know her EX is going to try to BANG her every minute he is there and she has no problem with it because it only effects YOU and not them!
SIR, Your not much of a man if you let this women screw her EX right in front of your face!!! TRUST goes both ways and she is doesn't give you the same respect which make you the one with the panties on!!!
- Anonymous7 years ago
You can't prescribe to her in her own house if she can allow someone to stay over for a few days - I'm afraid the choice is hers and you will have to live with it.
- rkrellLv 77 years ago
While you trust her completely, it still would be weird for her ex to sleep over. Unless she can honestly say she would let any ex of yours stay with you she shouldn't expect any ex of hers to be ok staying with her.
- 7 years ago
It is inappropriate and very inconsiderate to your feelings. Once you are married and living together, will she expect you to allow him to spend the night in your home?
