why dont i have a social life outside of school?

What I want to ask is, what is/are the specific reason(s) you want to have a boyfriend?

Personally, I was always introverted. I'm fine talking to people, and like you, I was neither anti-social nor extremely popular in high school. I just didn't enjoy hanging out that much. I prefer to have a close group of friends whom are like family to me rather than going out to dinner in a group of 20+ people (though I've been to alot, but just not all the time). My hobbies are also things that I can enjoy alone or in small groups. I'm personally single and I've recently come to a realization that I don't think I want a girlfriend merely because it means that I'd have to share my life with someone. This meant going out more often, hanging out with my girlfriend's friends, etc

You asked why people don't want to know you more, but do you want to know more about them? Personally, I can care less about other people. A lot of the times, to be popular, you have to have initiative and high energy. That's also how society wants to train people. If you aren't that type of person you can try to change yourself, but changing yourself to suit other people is disgusting in my opinion. More often than not, in the end you'd just revert back to your old self, tired of keeping up that charade and become more miserable than ever.

So I ask you again, why exactly do you want a boyfriend, but this time, also think about why you don't want one and what changes you'd have to make if you were to have one. Are the sacrifices worth having a boyfriend?

I was quiet in highschool and I still am. I'm 18. Idk for me I find it hard to socialize with people, it's more than just talking you have to be all bubbly and energized, I feel like that is too draining so I just watch them from afar. Yeah call me antisocial but I don't really like people, they bore me. :/ all they are is just people who are absorbed with themselves and only are superfical. So to me even talking to them I still know I'll feel lonely because then they will forget about me and our conversations were meaningless and they are no use or will not try to be apart of my life. And I'm content with that, I'd rather do what I like to do and think in my head than blab

You need to be out going and put yourself out there!! When.i was in school (im20) I was soooo social i talked to everyone and everyone I'm a very talkative person and.i had tons of friends. You need to talk to people even if you don't know them.