My ex-wife's affair is working out, contrary to the "affairs" never work rule?

My wife is completely willing to do it, she even likes it. However, I don't really think it's that big a deal. You aren't really missing that much. However, if it's that important to you I suggest a few things: 1) Wait. Someday, she may want to do something really special for you. If you haven't poisoned the topic by then, that could be your lucky day. 2) Take her out, have a great time and drink a lot. Who knows....if she's feeling happy and sexy and kinda dirty, again this might be your lucky day. 3) Watch some movies that feature it. My ex-wife never wanted me to do it. However, we watched Summer of Sam one time. There was a rough scene in it with anal sex. All of a sudden, she actually wanted it. 4) Save us some money. Make a plan. Go to a hooker who will do that one time. You can get it out of your system and move on. I wouldn't recomend this option unless you've got a so-so marriage on your hands.

It's going to be pretty painful after breaking up with someone you love so much. It's inevitable that you're going to feel very down, sad and depressed. Sometimes it seems you spend every waking moment thinking about how to get your ex back. Try to visit this site in order to get the best benefit out of it https://tr.im/getexback

Do a simple search, and you're bound to find a plethora of information, with a whole host of different opinions, sometimes seemingly off opposing viewpoints. To focus in on something that's going to help you, the first thing you think about is establishing some common courtesy.

First off, NEVER play mind games with people. This will only get people hurt and will probably end up worsening the situation. I only mention this because naturally people are ruled by their emotions rather than thinking their actions through thoroughly. Think the situation through before doing things based on your emotions. Remember, even if you do manage to get people to do what you want, this amounts to manipulation, and however good you feel now, I guarantee it won't last very long.

There is no "one size fits all" rule when it comes to human beings - everyone and every situation is different. You will hear all kinds of things from other people - some will be true, some is not. And sometimes your exwife will simply change her mind.

Perhaps you could ask others to not report her activities to you, that you don't want to know, and decide what if anything you want from her. If it's too painful, tell her flat out that the only communication between you must be about the children. Then stick to that. This back and forth sure doesn't seem to be working.

It doesn't sound like it is working out if she's trying to get back with you. And maybe she didn't call Mr wonderful because he's married, dummy. Why don't you grow a pair of balls and quit being a doormat for that whore.

Some one told you they saw her on a date and that is some kind of prof that it all worked out? She was in bed with you does that mean you had sex or got back together? I doesn't seem to me there's anything that proves her affair worked out. They may just be friends now. Honestly you sound a little jealous and still upset. You sure you aren't sending mixed signals about getting back together? Further more are you sure you don't want to get back together with her? Also friends that stir up trouble by gossiping aren't that great of friends. Just think about it.

There are no rules of affairs, and words like "never", "forever", and "always" typically don't represent reality...

Affairs RARELY workout...but yeah, sometimes they do...

Why didn't she call Mr. Wonderful??? You'd have to ask her...she chose to call you and you went and helped her...so her problem was resolved regardless...

My ex wife has been married to her affair dude for 18 years now. Sometimes they do work. Its just how life is at times. Life is far from fair.

sounds like it's working out only if her goal was to go into depression, not sure what angle you're trying to work here but leave us out of it.

You have to define, "Never work out". Does it mean:

they won't be together

they will be together, but not happy

they will be together, but cheating on each other

She does not sound like things are working out. Maybe you thought working out meant she would come back to you. Definition is important.

Sounds simply like she likes to **** a lot of different guys. Could be she's afraid of getting old and having multiple partners makes her feel vital. Just ask yourself if you enjoy the time you're together or not (i.e. I take it that when she crawled in bed with you you ****** the **** out of her as opposed to throwing her out or calling the police?). If you don't tell her to leave you alone, if you do enjoy her company, and you can even still love her, and drop the whole "affair" or cheating ****, learn that that is only used to prevent the fat friends of housewives who heard that Mildred next door's husband decided to plow a 19 year old stripper as opposed to ignore that MIldred had gained a metric ton since the three years ago they got married and has given up on shaving / deodorant.