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Me and my boyfriend of almost 4 years had an argument and he suddenly broke up with me and then took off to work. It was very much out of proportion to the argument at hand but he says we fight too much even though he agrees our last argument was 3 months previous (and the one before that 6 months) he feels this is too much arguing. So maybe 3 or 4 arguments a year. So he starts immediately acting all nice to me and wants to be friends and I told him NO. If you call me then it needs to be with the understand were dating and/or in a romantic relationship or forget about it I am moving on. I need no contact to get over you and find a new man to be in my life eventually. So he has been calling and being very nice. He is still telling me he loves me. He says dating is a great idea to see we still have a spark and chemistry still.

Previous to this we were planning to move in together and I suspect he got freaked out of taking the steps towards that and instead of telling me he just broke up and ran away. So I don't trust him. This isn't the first time he has hurt me because he is emotionally immature.

So, I am spilt, should I date him and explore the "spark aspect" of things? See first if we even want to continue with one another and then later if/when more then dating comes around address the trust issues? Or no I shouldn't date him because I no longer trust him?

I know dating was my idea but a month later I am now unsure.

Our marriage had a lot of issues and I wanted to separate and get divorced. He did not want to. After a few months of separation he found a Gf and filed for divorce. They are still together. I'm dating someone also. The divorce was very straight forward and were not fighting about anything. The final paper work is due back in about 3 weeks.Basically were friends at this point.

On mothers day he came by and brought a present and some doughnuts and hung out for an hour or so. During this time we got into a conversation about us in the future. He said maybe we would get back together on one, five or ten years. You never know. I said we have no future other then friends were divorced. Further more If he thought we had a future he should have stayed married and tried to work on things. I did ask him several times about working things out or going to counseling and he didn't want to so I dropped it. He just said who really knows what the future holds and I responded that I did. That divorce is the end of a romantic relationship and as far as I am concerned there is nothing that can bring it back to life. You need to work on a relationship while your in it not after its over. Being together is a choice and he chose to get divorced. I just didn't see his view point. So am I wrong to think divorce is the ultimate ending of a relationship? Why would a person get back together with an ex-spouse? What reason for or against a reconciliation after the divorce do you have?

Today me and my boyfriend were hashing out some details of a recent fight we had. Everyhting was going well and were understanding one another view points and gaining some common ground. Doing a good job of talking it out. Then he told me he has shared some of my text messages with a woman I dont know personally but has been a friend of his for a long time and I was instantly upset. I dont know why I have shared text messages with friends before. As he went into what she thought about what I said I went OFF. I mean I lost it i scream and cussed at him and told him off and hung up on him. After a few minutes I calmed down. I honestly dont know why I got so upset. I sincerly appologized to him almost immediately. I still dont understand why I got so mad. Have you ever gotten completedly pissed off almost immediately and when you calmed down you wondered why you even got so upset? Have you ever acted badly and realised you were completely wrong and being a tottal jerk? How do you avoid a repeat performace?

We dated about a year but I have know him for decades. The plan was for us to live together in a house he was going to buy in my area which is cheaper. He moved in with me while we looked and then ended up moving out 3 months later because this area effecting his health. He swore it had nothing to do with our relationship and his feeling towards me. He has been looking for a home in another area where the climate and altitude don't effect his illnesses. This separation is only supposed to be temporary. After two months he hasn't bought anything and has only found a few homes to even look at. The issue seems to be where he wants to live is too expensive and he cant afford it regardless of what size home he was looking for.

Here's what's bothering me. He moved out to stay with his parents temporarily but now feels he dad is too ill to move to far away from but cant afford to live in their neighborhood. I wanted all of use to move together and rent a place until we found one to buy. He had a long list of reason why that wouldn't work out. If he wants to be with me shouldn't he try and keep us together? What does it mean that he moved out without us? I'm rent and if its just me and my kids I would move to a cheaper smaller place but im hold to see what he is doing. When I suggest he looks for cheaper areas to buy in he gets mad. Is he making finding a house impossible so it wont happen?

I'm applying for student aid and loans and I originally planned to go to my local college. However I don't have a lot of cash and a friend has offered to rent me a room about 60 miles from where I currently live for a much cheaper price then my current housing. The house is in escrow so the plans not set in stone. I was wondering if I apply for aid will it follow me to another college or will I have to completely reapply in the new city? Any advice would be helpful.

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 26 years. So I know him very well and he even says I know him better then anyone else. I have commented about his moods a few times or the last 7 months. Example of this are "You seem feisty today" "when you came over you seemed quite." and one time I told him he was high maintenance Which I found out didn't mean what I meant it to mean and apologized. Now suddenly were getting in to Hugh fights because he says im interpreting his moods incorrectly. Im not starting these fights he is im not mad or anything. So he wants to know why I think hes quite or feisty and I tell him the reasons why. Then he starts trying to debate every single word in the sentence and the comment about being feisty turns into a 2 hour long debate/ fight. He claims he just wants the truth to remembered and that I cant create emotions for him. He will feel how ever he wants and I have it wrong. I say im entitled to my opinions and own observations and his version of events isn't always accurate. but real issue is this. Is a comment about a persons behaviors and moods worth a 2 plus hour debate and or fight? I feel like I cant comment or talk to him. I swear im not the one starting or elongating these arguments and I finally get to the point I just don't care and don't even want to hear his voice. Are we doomed?

Me and the hubby want to get away but we have a limited budget. We would like to take a week long vacation. We would like to leave the state and have a reliable vehicle. We enjoy museums and nature walks and historical monuments. Our budget is limited to $1500.00. We have been to Las Vegas many times and would like something more relaxing maybe even romantic.

I was just reading about another user that was worried about becoming pregnant while using a Mirena IUD. I realized I know little about the process of conceiving while using an IUD. Does this harm the baby? Do they remove it if you do become pregnant? Does it harm the mother? Thanks for the info.

Do you like Ophelia or Jennifer better? One I like one my husband likes just curious what everyone else thinks.

We live in california and my husband just got laid off and we are going to apply for some aid. Online it seems we would qualify but we have 3 vehicles. According to blue book ones worth $10000.00 the other two are both worth less then $1500.00. Anyone had any experience with this situation? Does one of them being nonoperational have any effect on its worth? Also if denied do you think we could win our appeal? Im mostly concerned with the medical benefits for our kids but help with food is always nice.

My husband got laid off his job of 19 years. He wants to go back to college and finish his degree. Were considering cashing out his 401k and paying cash for a house with the belief that it will reduce our month expenses and allow him to change careers. Right now our biggest expense is our rent. I know there is a 10% penalty and then taxes must be paid based on income. We have a family of 5 and he was the only one employed. The security of owning it outright is very appealing. It seems a solid choice barring the resulting taxes. Any advice?