I'm an attractive person...how come I haven't had sex yet?

Why do women feel that the nature of men is wrong and the nature of women is right? Who said that you own the standard? We are different. We are designed differently. Personally I find male sexual pushiness wrong, but as a man, I can tell you the desire to move things along is always there and always will be. I don't judge the way men are as wrong - it's kinda like hating sunrises to a person who likes to sleep in. The sun is going to come up regardless. Women are not like men. We could say, "why don't you just hop in the sack easier?" But most men don't bother to ask. We accept and cherish the differences. Although many men feel that women are too difficult in every way. Well, now that I've spit that out ... I'd rather have a great wine from a can than I'd like to have rotgut swill in a beautiful bottle. If I can find both together, that's what I'd pick.

You probably have confidence issues. I recently returned from south east asia and out of the people I met and traveled around with there was one guy Joe, mid 20's tall with great looks and body, in two weeks I had slept with 3 women and 2 guys, and I am 44. He kept going on about how can it be so easy for you, i'm average looking as you can see in my picture, but I have the charm and confidence to make you believe that I am the one you want to take back to your place for the night, if you are looking for fun that is. If I had the looks like Joe has I could pull virtually anyone that was up for it.

Be confident and it will get you everywhere. I have not boasting or anything slept with 1000+ people, mostly women, ok it has taken 28 years of putting it about, am 44 now Just make sure you use condoms, never had an STD in my life.

"But how come I haven't had sex yet?"

Having had sex or not does not rely on looks/personality, it relies on having had the opportunity to do so (because it takes another willing person) and having taken or declined that opportunity. Thus, if you've never been met with the opportunity, you've never had sex. However, even though looks and personality may play parts on your chances of being met with an opportunity, keep in mind that "good" looks/personality do not necessarily equal high chances.

"Help?"

Looks may translate well onto photographs and what not, but in real-life situations charm, approachability, behavior and the way one carries oneself play a much bigger role in what complete picture others have of you. Having good looks is useless if you're a jerk, an overall unapproachable person or someone who lacks charm.

Most "players" often do not fit the media's beauty standards, instead they often have a lot of charm, confidence and a good way with words which works for them (as shown by Jason's story).

You actually come across very insecure and shallow with all of your confidence being wrapped up in your looks. This is not likely to be to your advantage.

Pffft, since when would sex make you a better model?!?!? Thats ridiculous, regardless of who you are or what your aspiring to be - sex is not going to take you there, unless you are a prostitute that wants as many sti's as possible?!? Think to yourself here, "is having a one night stand going to change your future in a positive way?" NO! If anything, meaningless sex like that will come back to bite you in the a*s one day when your successful in your career.... The end.

Gosh I do know the feeling. I often get guys on grindr messaging me saying I'm hot/handsome/cute but no one male or female that I ever met in person has ever flirted etc It literally has only happened twice. All I can think is that my body language is negative or that I give off a straight vibe. C'est la vie, n'est-ce pas? :/