Should Husband go to birthday party w/o his wife?

You want to drink to excess, smoke weed, and crash at someone else's house after a party? That's what your husband is going to do. How cozy! Are you bringing an air mattress? If you don't want to do that... how about you just let hubby go to his friend's 35th birthday bash by himself. Sounds like it's a guy's bash anyway. Is it possible that Dad deserves a night out howling with the pack?

For one thing your husband is being a douche-bag for not mentioning it too you and than just figures you can stay at home with the kids. Most likely he feels like your kind of a stick in the mud and will want to leave and ruin his night of drinking and being a pot head. Either you trust your husband or you do not you must just think what would be a good idea stay home let him blow off some steam with his buddies and save some babysitter money. Look at it this way you stay home this time and the next time you have a GF's birthday or shower or something to celebrate he can stay home with the kids. The whole I scratch your back you scratch mine when I want to go out with the girls. Or possibly part of this party involves going to a strip club and he knows you disapprove.

Well, he proably needs a guys night out... Either way have you ask your self that the reason you want to go with him is to keep on an eye on him or to have fun as well? Perhaps, you can tell him that you wish to have a fun night out as well and that you have decided that even if you dont go to this party, you will still go out ( theater watch a movie or something with your girlfriends), but you rather like to spend it with your hubby to remember those old days when you were dating... or somehting like that .. dont feel defensive about it .. he just want some fresh air .... you should do the same get fresh air as well .. or be the bigger person and just let him have fun its his birthday at least one day a year he deserves a night off of family duty ... then you could do the same when your bday comes along .... and he can't tell you anything lol

Your husband sounds like he's just trying to make things more complicated. Do you work? If you do then tell him you'll pay for it so that way he can't complain about wasting money. If you're not able to pay then tell him the money isn't a waste if it gets you and him out of the house for a fun party. If he's trying to go without you then he needs to just be honest and tell you instead of dancing in circles and blaming it on a waste of money. He's willing to spend money on other things I bet, but not for a babysitter so you can both have fun and party together? Smells like bs.

well, my suggestion if he decides babysitter is a waste of money HE will babysit. u re a couple, so u must be invited as we as he, why don't YOU go alone? and in my relationships as long as I AM invited and I AM the one who is making the decision whether I should attend or not i wouldn't mind if my husband goes alone. i would mind only in case the friend invited ONLY the husband and not me. then i think out of solidarity husband shouldnt' attend as well. but if u both were invited i don't see why he can't go if u won't find a babysitter. or as i said YOU go

Sad to say but sounds like he doesn't want you to go to that party with him. He wants to go alone and do what he wants to do. You should go somewhere with the kids and just let him go to the party alone. See what he says and act calm. The truth always comes back to haunt people in the end..if something does happen at that party. Good Luck!

Just make arrangment for a sitter,and when the person shows up,say you foumd someone great to watch the kids,lets go! Whats he gonna do at that point,leave without you?or just refuse to go? Either of those things would indicate that he just didnt want you with him at this party,wich would be highly suspicious...good luck.

It sounds like your husband is up to something. Back then my husband never wanted to invite me to any of his friends hang outs or bdays and i found out why...because there was girls and he wanted to look single and hang out with them. Now it's either I go with you or you don't get to go at all! Ask him why aren't you invited? The kids shouldn't be an excuse. Me and my husband always try to find a bby sitter, if we can't find one both of us stays home.

Sounds like he doesn't have the Balls to tell u he wants u NOT to go. My gut says for SURE he's hiding something. I'd bet anything.

You are married to a guy you don't trust. And you think his attendance at one party is the biggest problem you've got. My, you are naïve, aren't you.