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I know that I've asked this question before, but now there's a new twist and I'm really looking for some outside help.

His friend invited us to his 35th b/day bash I think knowing full well we don't have a babysitter. Without talking to me my Hubby agrees to go; says we have no babysitter, he will leave me home w/ kids. Then I find out a couple weeks later that my Hubby wants to drink to excess, smoke weed and spend the night there. All the meanwhile I'm telling him I want to go w/ him, I just want to find a babysitter on care.com. Now he tells me that it's a waste of money, we might as well go out to dinner rather than go to "stupid party". Says I'm sending mixed signals and that he feels as though I don't really wanna go...I don't trust him...like I wanna chaperone. I explained that I do want to go to party. Then he again starts talking about waste of money for babysitter. I explained it's only about $10-13/hr. He was surprised. But still not on board totally. Help?!

Anyone have any ideas? I want to plan a last minute date night @ home for my Husband who treats me like a queen always. We have 3 kids and not enough money to really do it up. Just looking for sweet, sexy & romantic ideas for after the kids are in bed. Any suggestions?

My Husband is absolutely miserable with his current job (facilities manager). He is depressed and feels stuck as we are also struggling financially. He feels as though he has no passion or ambition. However, he is very happy with the company that he works for. He applied for a sales floor position, but apparently the interviewer already had someone picked out. So of course, that really hurt his confidence. I have been trying to help him in every way possible that I know of, but it always comes across as he feels as though he's not good enough, which depresses him even more. So I have stopped talking about it with him. I had suggested career counseling, but I'm not sure that insurance will cover that, and we cannot afford it. It kills me to know that he is suffering in a job that he hates. His only passion is to be an inventor, but has no idea how to find a job for that or the qualifications which would need to be met. So does anyone know what classes my Hubby could take in order to be eligible for a furniture/retail sales floor manager? Or classes to become an inventor? He is a wonderful Husband, an awesome Father and a respectful, honorable man with excellent morals. He deserves to be happy. Please offer some good advice. Thank you for your time.

We were invited to his friend's birthday party next month. However, we really don't have any options for a babysitter. We have family here, but they are pretty much unreliable; upon realizing that, we agreed that we will rely only on each other & no longer ask family for help. So Hubby gets call from his friend inviting us. I heard him say that since we don't have a babysitter it'll probably be just him going. I'm a little hurt with his response. If it were me, I would rather stay home with Hubby and kids than leave him for the night with 3 kids (5yrs, 2 yrs, & 3 months) while I go out to drink and have a good time for an event WE were invited to. However, I don't want to tell he's not allowed to go. What are your thoughts on this?

Here's the quick but long story... We've been together 13 yrs, married 10yrs. He's 35, I'm 37. We went on our 1st date, and have been inseparable ever since. Passion, lust, severe love...the whole 9 yards. We have 3 beautiful kids, all under age of 5. When we were dating, he could not keep his hands off of me. 6 months later, we moved in together, and things changed some...he was tired a lot. Each time I was pregnant, he complained all the time about not enough sex. Meanwhile, he would tell me how I'm not as attractive with a big pregnant belly. So he was disgusted by me. Prior to pregnancy and in between, I ask/beg for sex/love from him only to be told he's "too tired/too drunk". Anyway, now I beg and rarely get..he's too tired. I know there's no affair. BUT, I know for a fact that he jerks off to porn almost every morning in the bathroom while I sleep. Yes, I have gained weight. Yes I am in the process of losing weight (30-40 lbs). Any advice welcome, no matter how hurtful.