Should I try to get back with ex wife? Sending me signals?

It sounds to me like the two of you still care a great deal about each other! It also sounds like you've moved past the issue of her having an affair. You sound like two lost soul mates who long for the comfort of each other. While it's true that she might have another affair if the two of you get back together, it's also a possibility that she might not. It all depends on your tolerance level for what you can put up with, or what "might" actually turn you on.

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My best estimate is that not everything is going well with Stud Boi, and she wants to keep her options open with you, to *use* as a lifeboat if Stud Boi sinks.

Do you REALLY want to be Pick Number Two ?

If she REALLY wanted to get back together with you, she would have ended it with Stud Boi, and then she'd come right up to you and ask you about getting back together. Besides that, her having not just cheated, but having tried to make a long term deal with who she cheated on you with, would be a major issue to work out in counseling. She would need to not only apologise for her affair, but she would have to specifically acknowledge the hurt that she created for you by her selfish actions.

You need to have a good cordial relationship with her, because you both will be co-parents of the kids forever, but beyond that, you were played once by a player. Why would you give her a second shot ?

I think she's purposely sending mixed signals when things don't go right with her affair partner she just goes back to you it seems she hasn't put much thought into how you feel and she's only thinking of herself maybe she doesn't mean to but she is I've been in a similar situation its best to put some distance between you and her and only talk when it concerns your daughter for now or you'll only end up hurt try and start dating someone new when your ready

It sounds as though she's sincere when she's missing you, but it also sounds as though she's hot and heavy with him in between times. I think that if you and she go to marriage counseling together for several months, you'll both have a better feel for all this. If she's not willing to go, then I respectfully suggest that you should walk away -- no point in going through all that pain unnecessarily, and if she won't go to counseling, you can be very confident you're gonna get kicked in the nads again.

She is stained by another man and the stain happened while you were married. I am 40 and have been married and divorced. I have been engaged now for 7 years to my true love with no intention of getting remarried. Marriage means nothing anymore. Just look at the divorce rates. Be happy you get along with her but once a cheater, always a cheater.

It sounds like she's just being nostalgic for the good old days. I got like that around Christmas too but I refrained from calling my EX. Just shine it on.

I'm almost in your exact same shoes and I've prayed for my ex to come to her senses, but she hasn't yet....unlike maybe yours. I want my family back together, but I'm honestly not do sure about whether or not I truly want my ex wife back after the hell she put me and my kids through for her selfish reasons.

Ask yourself if you feel sexually attracted to her? If the kids were gone and out of the house, would you enjoy spending time with her? Could you trust her?

I'll make it easy...

NO!

Once a ho, always a ho.

And I don't mean in a Santa Clause was either.

**** her.... she cheated... now its tie for u to find a special person in ur life that will make u happy and be loyal to you.... not the skank tht u were married to