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What are the real statistics on swinging?

So, I am married 22 years and have recently become involved with swinging. My wife also enjoys it but struggles with her religious beliefs about it. Since we started we have both enjoyed each other and select others a lot. We play as safe as we can and do screen all potential partners. If it means anything we love each other more and have enjoyed our "alone time" together since we started. How many couples really play out there? I have read anywhere from 1-10%. Just curious. You have to have a solid relationship to try it but it is a lot of fun if you both like it. If you want to give us a lecture don't bother, we are in our 40's, pay our taxes, both college educated, and contribute positively to society. Our risk is really no different than single people dating. If you don't agree, I don't want to hear it, its our choice not yours.

Update:

Been there, in terms of the history of American swinging you are way off. Look it up. GI's were doing it in the 40's and I am sure it was practiced before. As for your idea that a couple can not have any attachment, most of the couples we have played with have had 20+ years of marriage and have been in the lifestyle 10+ years. The incidence of divorce among our swinger friends compared to our conventional relationship friends is not much different and probably higher in the conventional relationships. Your history is off and also either your personal recollections are off or times have changed. Thanks for answering but I was looking for a stat and not a out of date, un-researched answer. I agree with Kate that a true stat will probably never be available, but think Cmp874 is the best answer. Their is a stigma about swinging just like being gay. As society has evolved being gay has been better accepted but there are still the dinosaurs amongst us. Sex is a gray area wi

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    5 years ago

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    There are 267 games a year, not counting pre-season games. the 40-odd SuperBowls that have occurred don’t provide a large enough sample, but i don’t see why the non-SB games wouldn’t be a good proxy for them. i’d want to see the results of several full years before i’d start thinking that the 100 pairs of ending digits were significantly biased from one percent each, but you make a good point -- "5" does seem, in my memory, to be an infrequent ending digit. i’ll make a note to see whether i can find all the ending sores since 16-game seasons started -- that period is my proxy for the modern "balanced" era (passing and running). [currently, the bias might be swinging toward passing over running -- i’ll have to call that the "Pats-BB/TB" era (if they *do* win today -- four SB in seven years, with same coach and QB, would deserve a historical credit), of which The Greatest Show on Turf was a harbinger and Peyton Manning the herald.] The Elias Sports Bureau probably has the scores, but i don’t know how to obtain access to them.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    7 years ago

    You do not specify your country of origin, but, if you are American as I am, I tend to doubt that there would be an honest answer available, at least in our lifetime. While the power of stigma is still strong, the vice is loosening. I think with new openness, the discovery has been made that few people, if any, fall into the idealistic behavioral patterns encouraged by the culture at large. Real life, it has turned out, is not as black and white as everyone would have thought, especially regarding the subject of sexuality. I think not having an answer is a shame, because your question is a very intelligent one.

  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

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  • 5 years ago

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    However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Peyton Manning Swinger

  • Kate
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Anytime something has to do with sex people pretty much lie about statistics. One of the things we learned in a college psych class (about a thousand years ago now, it seems) is that people lie about pretty much anything to do with sex because of their comfort levels. It's all the way from the number of partners they've had to the size of their equipment. I don't think there's anyway for you to get a good stat on this.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Swinging became popular in the early 1970's when Mr & Mrs O'Neill published a book about it called "Open Marriage". The book was on the best seller's list for MONTHS, and about 1/4 of the couples I knew tried swinging. I was newly-married and in my mid-20's at the time, and we had a HUGE social circle .. over 100 people. So it was easy to see trends and the results.

    I do not know one couple who practiced swinging then who is still together today.

    And I know many couples who are still together (they just weren't the couples who practiced swinging).

    In order for swinging to work, the couple has to NOT be attached to each other. Oh, yeah, you have to have a "solid relationship". That's delusional.

    Unfortunately I know some couples who DID have solid relationships, with excellent communication skills and genuine caring and coordination, who tried swinging. Even with solid relationships, those couples who were ended up divorcing within 10 years. MY current husband of 25 years, was one of those couples. I met him about 5 years after his very painful divorce. We have a solid marriage and have decided to not endanger it by swinging.

    Yes, it's your choice. It's your marriage too. For now.

  • Dexter
    Lv 5
    5 years ago

    real statistics swinging

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

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