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I find it confusing how guys hate it when girls have slept with other people?
I understand the whole concept of if a lock is opened by a lot of keys, its a sh*tty lock, and if a key opens a lot of locks, it is a master key. I get it. Although I think that is only one metaphor that supports the concept of why men can sleep around and women cant. But im confused...
Men want a virgin Mary, yet want someone who is able to take control and know what their doing in bed. Youre not going to get that with a Virgin Mary - definately not straight away anyway!
But when youve slept with a few people, and as a woman youve found out what you like, and what to do.. Guys like it and hate it at the same time. My boyfriend said to me the other day that he hates the fact that ive slept with other people! Even though he has! And I dont even know why he brought it up lol.
But women get branded a slag, ****, whore all the time and I think its wearing a bit thin now. This constant judging that women have to put up with when theyre single and 'want to have fun' so to speak. If a man/woman wants to sleep around at nobodys expense, who are we to judge? Just as if a man/woman wants to settle down and have a family, who are we to judge them for wanting to do that also?
Its just confusing, because if somebody wants to stay celibate, or wants to shag all round them, its f*ck all to do with me and you. So why do people feel the need to constantly judge others on what they want to do? Especially when it doesnt affect us in the slightest?
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- Anonymous7 years agoFavorite Answer
Well im not gonna lie you care to some point, dont get me wrong your absolutely right. Trust me, it bothered me too when my boyfriend said it. Well we cant change the past. Because if it wasnt for the past we wouldnt be in wonderful relationships right now. But boys think like that its stereotypical. Like sexist. Or a double standard. Because thats how men get you to feel bad over time. Defend your self and tell him he slept with other women as well.its thier ego and emotions.
- Anonymous7 years ago
I'm a man who, due to his luck and ways of seeing life, has had "things" to do with lots of girls/women...
I have never considered my d*ck as being a master key, just as I haven't considered an experienced partner's c*nt a sh*tty lock!...
When/if a man does show having some issues regarding his woman's experiences, that man is, from my point of view, supposed to be taught a lesson!
The BEST lesson you can teach him is to... dump him!
He deserves no respect, nor understanding!
He's just a d*ckhead!...
- Anonymous7 years ago
Most guys, think that they should be the first guy the girl sleeps with. The reason being, they think she will compare other guys to the guy she lost her virginity. But they also want the girl to know what she is doing. I think that guys who think that way are misguided. You can not have both, as if she knows what she is doing she has to have had some experience. But guys who play around are considered Jack the lad, which guys see as hero,s
Yes it is double standards, but that is how guys think. It is in their phsicie
- 7 years ago
"how something is" doesn't make it right.
A good man will want to save himself for you...
The man who lusts after other women, is over obsessed with sex, and looks at you as simply a sex object, rather than a friend he cares for deeply....will be unsatisfied and want to share his unhappiness with you.
When you are dealing with a man...you have to ask what he wants from you. The man you want to marry is the man who wants to marry you to make YOU happy, because he is in love with you and excited about the person you are becoming.
The man who wants just a sexual thrill from you...and has no long term plan for you...is ultimately...not right for you.
It is hard to find a "good man"...just as its hard to find a "good woman"....but that is to be expected, just look at the divorce statistics...lots of people are not serious about committment.
Put God first and your happiness can be had with or without the man...and when you are in a relationship you won't just give up because "the way I feel has changed". We shouldn't get married for "how we feel"...but in order to form a deep life long friendship...'
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