It's my 21st birthday and my boyfriend didn't get me anything?

Oh, that old and boring story: it's a boyfriend's duty to spoil his girlfriend with gifts and pay all her whims so she can brag for others! But the girlfriend isn't expected to give gifts and pay nothing for her boyfriend. As if she's a queen and he's a jester. Many women take things so much for granted. I'm not those crazy feminists - so not really my type - I love giving and receiving gifts and pamper my loved ones, but giving a birthday gift isn't mandatory. I prefer to get a big hug and sincere wishes than receiving a gift by mail. True affection is more valuable than a ring, a necklace or whatever your material desire. If you think that having a boyfriend, fiance, husband - as you call it - is a wonder of the world and a bed of roses, you're wrong. These things only happen in movies and novels. In real life is more complicated: there are two people with different thoughts, different views and sometimes with different cultures being forced to believe they need each other to live, once together that none of them can feel love for anyone else and have that cling to each other for the rest of their lives. All because society says that is how it should be.

Don't get me wrong, I just really can't believe that a grown person is making a fuss about not getting a gift like a little kid. It's silly, honey. He's just a boyfriend, a person, and people come and go. If you're not satisfied, just break up and move on with your life.

If i was in your position, i would sit him down or bring it up obviously not to cause an argument just let him know what's bothering you and maybe it will knock some sense into him.

Or the other option is that you don't get him nothing for his birthday and let him feel what you felt when he given you nothing on your major 21st.

but the other opinion to just rethink of even dating him, a guy who doesn't acknowledged a loved ones special day is just a pathetic loser!

he just seems like he would find any excuse to no go anywhere which might make him a lazy person, and a tight *** as well... and to miss your mums birthday coz your tired seems like his really selfish.

First of all, the day isn't over yet. I suggest that you teach out to your boyfriend and tell him that you want to go out to celebrate your birthday a little bit and not stay at home. At the end of the day, you are going to feel better about your day if you did something to celebrate instead of staying stuck in the house moping around. Secondly, buy yourself a birthday present. Treat yourself to something you want and deserve. My wife divorced me and I had nobody to buy me a present this year...so, I bought for myself and it turned out well. I knew exactly what I wanted!!

As for your boyfriend, I think you don't want to nag. You don't want him to feel bad, but you likely will. Sorry. I think that if you are going to be in a long term relationship with him, this could happen every year if you don't address it now and you will grow to resent him.

...you need to communicate with him and explain what birthdays mean to you and what you need from a boyfriend on a birthat.

" I don't think he thinks the same way about birthdays so maybe he doesn't understand that it's actually not a very nice thing to do"

i LOVE spoiling people on their birthdays (i love buying presents/making cakes etc)

but i HATE a fuss being made of mine

i just dont understand grown adults needing to feel valid on a day, they frankly had no choice in,

if anyone should be made to feel special, its the mother, that makes sense to me

perhaps he is like me

YOU think it should be celebrated, and you knew he wasnt like that

so perhaps you should have arranged to go and celebrate with friends

Maybe he's jut too lazy to go in to town and actually have a look in shops for something pretty, although buying flowers would be extra easy. Nonetheless I think he's lazy.

If he misses the first birthday, he'll miss the next. My boyfriend hasn't gotten me anything for my birthdays, Valentine's days, or even Christmases. But he hasn't had much money to get them. He's never really made a lot of money, but now he starts his better job this week. Good luck, talk to him about it. Maybe it's financial problems?

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Looks like its time to think if hes worth dating ? selfish guys are not good to date so think about dumping him.

not much of a boyfriend that he cant find anything for your birthday.

Dump him