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I just wanna know where we stand ? Advice 10pts?
I been seeing this guy for almost 3 months. Hes 39 im 23. Hes a very sweet guy , we do spend time together but not as often as i would like. He does come over my house and spends the night sonetimes. We have been intimate alot of times as well. I been starting to catch feelings for him but i dont know where we stand eith each other and im afraid if i tell him he might think im moving to fast or idk. Theres just somethings that really bother me when it comes to him. We never really went out on a date. He never invites me over his house. And he has a bad habit of saying im gonna call you later or i call you when i get t o work etc. And he never does . I just dont wanna get into deep and get dissapointed if we not on the same page. I dont know how to tell him? Any advice would help ?
3 Answers
- MircatLv 77 years ago
You're dating a middle aged guy 16 years older than you - almost old enough to be your dad and:
1. He spends some time with you but not a lot.
2. He spends the night sometimes.
3. He has never taken you out on a date.
4. You have never been to his house he always comes to yours.
5. He never follows through with a call to you when he says he will.
Read those and tell me what it sounds like to you. To me it says that (1) he is either married or (2) he has a girlfriend.
He can stay overnight by telling the wife/girlfriend he is traveling on business, attending a conference or causing a fight so he can be away and claim he stayed with a guy friend or at a hotel.
He never calls you so he can't be heard at work or home talking to a female or heard in a car or have a record of calls on his phone.
He never takes you out so the two of you aren't seen together looking like a couple, having dinner or being on a date so no one can report him to the wife/girlfriend. He also doesn't spend any money on you so he doesn't have to justify ATM withdrawals or credit card charges.
You don't go to his place because the wife/girlfriend lives there or she has a lot of her stuff there and you'd see it like some of her clothes or her toothbrush or her nightie on the back of the bathroom door. Even if he claims to have roommates he could invite you over for coffee and dessert or a drink to watch a movie or hang out.
I'd say it's time to do some serious background checking and insist on going away for the weekend and see how quickly he tries to avoid that; or tell him you are inviting him out to dinner and you'll drive over and pick him up and see what the response is. But I think there's something fishy and you're probably not going to have to worry about the future with him because there isn't one.
Good luck and start paying attention.
- 7 years ago
ok so you like this guy right?
Chances are, he sees you as a good friend. If you want him to know that you like him without telling him, you could flirt more often.... just give your relationship more time, try to hang out more often, and let fate do its work. After all, the best relationships take the most time. So take your time and try not to rush into things.
- Sandy KLv 77 years ago
Why should he get serious? he getting all that he wants and needs. Maybe you had better ask him if he is using you as a sex object.
