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Ramadan: What do you do when culture goes against Islam?
Assalamualeykum
so basically in my culture when we greet our relatives we are to give each other kisses on the cheeks whether male or female
so my prob is that whenever my uncles come over, my mom makes a big fuss if I don't embrace them and obviously its haram as they are not my mahrams...
I don't know what to do. I've tried many times and I have avoided this interaction but she places me in an awkward position.
btw I've told her i'm not going to follow that culture anymore but she gets affended
should I just ignore her and give her a look of disapproval even if it pisses her off?
what should I do? have u been in such situations before and if yes how did I solve it?
jummah Mubarak :)
@HM no they're not my mahram. I was referring to my aunite's husbands so that's not mahram
9 Answers
- Anonymous7 years agoFavorite Answer
Yeah i know what your talking about, in a lot of arab cultures they do this. Mashallah i have to say that i am proud of you for trying so hard to obey allah and not anger him, may your efforts be rewarded. Even though your mom gets upset just be patient with her, and you should give her a look that says your not going to do it, or even say to her ''fear allah'' because she does not have fear for allah she has more fear of how you effect her image in the community, but i don't want you to have distance or too much confrontation with your mother where she starts to blame islam on your behaviour, so inshallah try to make her happy with other things like helping out more, being more patient and nice even if you already are, you can always streach farther. inshallah this will help you. and please continue on this path of obeying allah. may Allah reward you, protect you, save you, forgive you, and bless you, ameen.
you should watch these two videos inshallah to inspire you to continue.
- Anonymous7 years ago
just shy away, and they will understand it themselves. Of course be nice, offer tea, etc, and ur uncles/aunties will know ur not rude or angry, OR have a family member, like ur mom, tell ur aunt, then she will naturally tell her husband/ur uncle, and the world will make sense again :)
salam and God bless u for ur piety, may HE grant all of ur wishes and admit u and ur family to paradise :)
- Anonymous7 years ago
Wasslam.
Practice what Islam teaches.
Actually both women and men are not supposed to touch each other. A simple "Assalamualeykum" would be enough to greet them.
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- ?Lv 57 years ago
You stay with the religion; not any of the cultural points. Tell your mother that you are unable to do so as it goes against what is proper. Your mother should not get offended by it; tell her from religious teachings. Tell the relatives as well; if they are Muslims, let them know of this as well.
- MinteeLv 77 years ago
just grab their hands in a geniune embrace and smile real warmly and say.. Hi UNcle so and so..
Long time no see.. welcome.. and leave it at that.... you dont have to hug someone for them to
feel really welcomed..
- Anonymous7 years ago
Eat loads of onions
They wouldn't want to receive a kiss from you again
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